the thing is, i want to not have this man crush because it makes me feel like i am gay... however i really really want to have it because i like the guy so much... i realllyyyy want him its creepy odd... idk what to do! ive always been straight- this is my first ';gay-ish'; experience, and i want to be with that guy sooo bad (and not in dirty sexual ways- i think that gross...) if someone asked me what i want the most i would say i want him to really like me back in a gayish way, and i would just want to be around him constantly, maybe like hugs or something or layin on a couch together and ';nuzzle'; or put his head on my stomach or mine on his and stuff- but NOT anything like taking it up the *** or something (im not that gay, i think im like 25% gay lol, not all the way go for it) and whenever i see him i get all shaky and nervous and i never act myself... and i flip out when i think i see his car or somethin... idk what to do... i feel so sad and stuff gahhh what do i dooo?!??Man crush?? ok so i think what i got is a man crush... how can i deal with this??
I've had guy friends that I've really enjoyed hanging out with, but NEVER in my life have I ever wanted to nuzzle with them. Just the THOUGHT of that creeps me out.
If you don't want to feel gay, then just get a girlfriend and put this dude out of your mind. Let HER put her head on your stomach and nuzzle with you.Man crush?? ok so i think what i got is a man crush... how can i deal with this??
ive had that experience before...i think its pretty normal for guys to be gay-ish...just cuz of the environment we grow up in
there's no such thing as a man crush, its just gay. sorry your bisexual. just come to terms with your sexuality and be honest with yourself
maybe your hormones are out of whack if your still young and you dont know what you want? idk you should talk to someone about it if your confused and bothered
So you want to cuddle and touch but no sex? Weird I think you may be like 25% gay. So gay you like him in a non-platonic way but not gay enough to have sex with him. I dunno what to tell you buddy. This is a weird situation.
ooooooooooooooooooooo kkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk i don't think ive ever heard of 25% gay before. im sorry dude but ive got nothing.
well, i'm guessing that your in high school, maybe even middle school. but in high school this is normal, your going to see things in a different way, and your going to want things. believe me, and maybe your not gay, maybe your bisexual, and this is the guy that's making you seem that way, due to the fact that your only just realizing what it actually is.
when you see him, just act normal, see if he wants to go hang out or something. and dont feel sad or anything sweety, i'm sure that if he's gay, or bisexual, that he would want to be with you, you seem like a really nice guy.
best of luck
hope i helped
Uh... Definitely haven't heard this one before. Just be sure he would be interested in this sort of thing or it could backfire, very badly.
Try bieng his Best friend and work it up from there.
yeah ur problably bi. but dont take it up the *** am a gurl and i wouldnt even do that,
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Admit that you're gay and move on.
Come out of the closet... besides, you don't have to take it up the pooper to be gay. You just have to learn to open your throat... pretend you're chugging a beer. You know, for your masculinity....
well chances are, if he's straight, he's going to get freaked out and call you a f.a.g.. I know, it's horrible, it's nothing I would ever do or agree with, I'm all for gay guys, it's just reality of typical guys these days.
mayb ur bi dude
Sounds like you're bi. Does this guy like you back? I don't have any good advice really except don't get all cut up over the fact that you like this guy. It's normal. Try to think of it as a good thing and have fun with it.
having a crush on a man is normal. and that doesn't mean you are gay. if you felt that way towards him, you should make friends with him. First step to a good relationship starts with friendship.Make friends with him, being friends makes it feel good but dont get all covered up yet since in ';friends'; there are a lot of get-to know-you-first things you need to ask him. it takes time and what socrates once said ';Patience is a virtue and virtue'; and that virtue can turn into what you want that scene to be. Good LuCK AND GOD BLESS
DUDE snap out of it
you been watching to much Obama, don't drink the cool-aid.
AH... I dont know if a guy who is straight would ever feel this way
but maybe your BY
um before I tell you to go for it
is he gay?
And think about your relgous beliefs and Ur familys beliefs
but if ur gay then ur gay
follow your heart?
ok i have the same feeling but NOT GAY like i am a girl and i like guys and sometimes i just get the SAME thing you described but for a guy ya know....its weird you just like him and you are just either confused or starting to show the true gay in you just see where your feeligns take you listen to your heart
I'm not trying to be mean, and I could be completey wrong with this, but that isn't what I think is a man crush. I think that's just a crush.
A man crush to me has always been just where you admire another guy a lot like where you're really envious of them or are just really interested in them for whatever reason. For example, I openly have a man crush on Ben Folds. It doesn't mean I wanna cuddle him or anything, just that I love his music and think he's really funny and overall I just really admire his whole style n stuff. I also have a man crush on Matt Schaub who was a freakin awsome QB for my favorite college team. I have no intimate feelings for him, I just really admire his football skills.
Well I wouldn't get all crazy about it.. when I feel out of control I go to the beach and read a book and get my mind focusing on good things.. and then I go home and make a plan on things I want to accomplish. I start to work right away on it and pretty soon my schedule is packed and I am making something of my life. True friends would support me and I would be there for them too.
There's no way you can be 25% gay. You're either 100% gay, or 100% straight. I think bisexual people are just greedy.
Anyway, you might just be curious. I've found that it's kind of fun to kiss girls sometimes, just to be flirty, and I'm definitely straight.
Anyway, there's no shame in trying new things. Sometimes you just have to experiment to find what you really want. Don't feel bad exploring your sexuality; it's completely natural.
Good luck! ^^]
Sexuality runs on a continuum. It may be that you want to only do the things you say and that will be that. Or maybe your feelings will grow. Either way you should just keep doing what you are doing being friends and maybe or maybe not it will become more. ';Nearly 46% of the male subjects had ';reacted'; sexually to persons of both sexes in the course of their adult lives, and 37% had at least one homosexual experience';. So what you're going through is very normal!
dude i have no idea
Saturday, August 21, 2010
Very strong crush; How do I deal with it?
There's this girl I started liking at the very end of last year and the beginning of this year. Her best friend used to tell me to get over it because she supposedly didn't' like me. A while later I found out she had a boyfriend and I got over her. A while after she and her boyfriend broke up, I had some strange dream that made my crush come back even stronger, so I asked her out, and she said yes but it never happened. After that I attempted asking out two more girls (at different times) and one of them said yes but we haven't done anything yet because we barely see each other. Meanwhile, Melissa got another boyfriend, but It only lasted like 2 days. I was talking to her the other day on facebook about all that stuff. In one of the conversations I told her that I loved her and she replied ';love you too'; (I know she only loves me as a friend. Anyways, the last day of school, I talked to her mother (a substitute teacher) about stuff. Someone randomly said ';Do you have a daughter in the school?'; and when the teacher replied ';Yes, and she's beautiful!'; I just said ';hell yeah!'; and her mom just laughed but I have a feeling that both, Melissa and her mother know I like her and if they do, they don't really care. My problem is that I seem not to be able to get over her and I feel I'm wasting my time trying to become more than friends with Melissa. I need suggestions A.S.A.P.!!!Very strong crush; How do I deal with it?
JUST ASK HER OUT WHAT ELSE IS THEIR TO IT
JUST ASK HER OUT WHAT ELSE IS THEIR TO IT
Dealing with a crush in high school?
Big wall of text :(
So, I'm a senior in high school, and theres this girl I really like. I wouldnt call myself shy at all, I am a little quiet however. Im not exactly ';smooth with girls'; but im a friendly guy and usualy if I can get the chance to talk to people I can become good friends with them. The thing is, life just seems to be doing EVERYTHING it can to keep me from talking to this girl. I'll spare you all the details. I'm going crazy! My teenage hormones are raging over this girl but I just cant seem to get close to her.(due to schedules and after school activities) So what? Should I walk up to this girl and just tell her how I feel? How should I say it? These are the things I'm asking.
Thank you for your time.Dealing with a crush in high school?
i would just walk up to her and ask her about an assignment or something don't make it obvious u like her too much. as weezer says: ';no one likes to much attention from a desperate fool'; lol goo luck
answer mine please:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>Dealing with a crush in high school?
get to be friends then say '; i really like you. we should hangout sometime.'; then when you start hanging out right b4 she goes home kiss her and say goodnight then walk away. thats wat my bf did to me. makes gurls go crazy wen u unexpectedly kiss them
Tell her how you feel, the worst thing she can do is say no, (it will suck at first, i know) but you never know, she might like you too!
like my math teacher says.
';if you arent sure, JUST ASK !';
btw, whats the worst that can happen? getting ejected? other fish in the ocean, but watch out for the sharks !
My suggestion is that you should talk to her. See if she has the same kind of feelings for you. Are you sure it isn't just a sexual attraction you feel for her?
Ah just ask her! I mean you can't live life with fear just ask her no matter what! If she turns you down there are plenty of girls out there and she just wasn't worth your time and wasn't the one for you!
Flatter the customer. ';I love you.';
Just ask her.
no
I am in the same position as you but im not sure if he likes me back, so i am just going to have to wait and see if he will start a conversation with me, atleast try to coz we have only spoken as few times..bout random stuff, but i feel like he likes me coz i caught him staring at me twice already so far and we had that eye lock thing going on for a few mins lol..but anyways it would help if u had given more details about this..but i think u shudnt just walk up 2 her and be like, i like u! that is kinda silly, if u havent spoken to her then try to speak to her first, and then get her msn add or number and then only ask her out..if she is interested.
good luck with that
I wouldn't just walk up to her and tell her how you feel, I'd say you need to suss the situation out before that. What about adding her on Facebook or something similar, or sending an email... I know plenty of people who have gotten to know people they're at school with or otherwise over the internet. That way you can easily talk and see if you get along well. However, if you can get talking in person (rather than immediately telling her how you feel) it would probably be better. I'd only use the email as a last resort if you're never are in the same place.
Hope this helps.grey hair computer security
So, I'm a senior in high school, and theres this girl I really like. I wouldnt call myself shy at all, I am a little quiet however. Im not exactly ';smooth with girls'; but im a friendly guy and usualy if I can get the chance to talk to people I can become good friends with them. The thing is, life just seems to be doing EVERYTHING it can to keep me from talking to this girl. I'll spare you all the details. I'm going crazy! My teenage hormones are raging over this girl but I just cant seem to get close to her.(due to schedules and after school activities) So what? Should I walk up to this girl and just tell her how I feel? How should I say it? These are the things I'm asking.
Thank you for your time.Dealing with a crush in high school?
i would just walk up to her and ask her about an assignment or something don't make it obvious u like her too much. as weezer says: ';no one likes to much attention from a desperate fool'; lol goo luck
answer mine please:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>Dealing with a crush in high school?
get to be friends then say '; i really like you. we should hangout sometime.'; then when you start hanging out right b4 she goes home kiss her and say goodnight then walk away. thats wat my bf did to me. makes gurls go crazy wen u unexpectedly kiss them
Tell her how you feel, the worst thing she can do is say no, (it will suck at first, i know) but you never know, she might like you too!
like my math teacher says.
';if you arent sure, JUST ASK !';
btw, whats the worst that can happen? getting ejected? other fish in the ocean, but watch out for the sharks !
My suggestion is that you should talk to her. See if she has the same kind of feelings for you. Are you sure it isn't just a sexual attraction you feel for her?
Ah just ask her! I mean you can't live life with fear just ask her no matter what! If she turns you down there are plenty of girls out there and she just wasn't worth your time and wasn't the one for you!
Flatter the customer. ';I love you.';
Just ask her.
no
I am in the same position as you but im not sure if he likes me back, so i am just going to have to wait and see if he will start a conversation with me, atleast try to coz we have only spoken as few times..bout random stuff, but i feel like he likes me coz i caught him staring at me twice already so far and we had that eye lock thing going on for a few mins lol..but anyways it would help if u had given more details about this..but i think u shudnt just walk up 2 her and be like, i like u! that is kinda silly, if u havent spoken to her then try to speak to her first, and then get her msn add or number and then only ask her out..if she is interested.
good luck with that
I wouldn't just walk up to her and tell her how you feel, I'd say you need to suss the situation out before that. What about adding her on Facebook or something similar, or sending an email... I know plenty of people who have gotten to know people they're at school with or otherwise over the internet. That way you can easily talk and see if you get along well. However, if you can get talking in person (rather than immediately telling her how you feel) it would probably be better. I'd only use the email as a last resort if you're never are in the same place.
Hope this helps.
How should I deal with this?
I really like a girl and I don't know how she feels about me. I'm a little afraid of creeping her out with how I feel. We have known each other since Kindergarten, been friends for as long as I can remember, and been best friends for a year or two. She is 16, I am 18. I feel so happy around her and I am a much better person around her. I worry she may see me at my less good moments or that she is not interested. Basically anything that makes me think I wouldn't be with her forever worries me. I work hard in life in order to be financially secure so that she wouldn't be afraid to marry. I try to drop incredibly subtle hints, but they are too subtle for my own good I think. But I'm afraid to be less subtle. Our families are also good friends, and our moms are best friends. My friends already act like she's my girlfriend, and that seems to bug her. We talk about deep things and my conversations with her usually last at least an hour, often going to two. We talk about life and our experiences. We have talked about relationships before and we both mentioned that it would be weird if WE were to date. (we didn't come with the topic out of nowhere, just from discussing the rumors about us (apparently her little brother has also declared me her boyfriend.))
My main worries are:
1. I am worried she may not like me the way I do. I dread not being with her forever.
2. I sometimes worry I am fooling myself, and that I have no real devotion, and that it's something I wish I were capable of. It seems too perfect somehow. Like the feelings are too good to be true and I'm not a good enough person to be so devoted. I am a fairly natural actor and I have sometimes had trouble with fooling myself, though nothing of such importance before.
3. I worry I may never be good enough to be a married man. That I will fail financially and be unable to support a family, or that I will fail morally/socially and not be a suitable husband.
So basically, I guess I am dealing with a crush. I have never dated and I never plan to until I can support a marriage (or would be able to fairly soon or when I need to). I believe the purpose of dating is looking for a wife and should only be done with the intent of marriage. I think dating 'to get to know each other' is garbage honestly and so basically, I see dating as something very serious and of great importance and value, not to be done lightly.
I appreciate all advice. If you see this topic 3 years after it was started I still appreciate the replies, even if it's just a handful of words. All and any advice/guidance/comfort is appreciated and will be made note of.How should I deal with this?
Just tell her what you feel and see what's her reaction about this.
The main point is as long as you are willing to try your best to settle the financial for your future and you will take care of her and treat her like she should treaten. Anything could be possible, dont' be afraid of fail. It's a good thing to let people know aht we feel specially the one we love. Good luck....How should I deal with this?
Ok
Seems like you REALLY like her
Ok don't be scared to tell her..
When I like a guy I tell him
You should just get it off your chest
But be like ';I want to tell you something but I don't want you to feel weird or this to affect our friendship'; it usually helps =)
My main worries are:
1. I am worried she may not like me the way I do. I dread not being with her forever.
2. I sometimes worry I am fooling myself, and that I have no real devotion, and that it's something I wish I were capable of. It seems too perfect somehow. Like the feelings are too good to be true and I'm not a good enough person to be so devoted. I am a fairly natural actor and I have sometimes had trouble with fooling myself, though nothing of such importance before.
3. I worry I may never be good enough to be a married man. That I will fail financially and be unable to support a family, or that I will fail morally/socially and not be a suitable husband.
So basically, I guess I am dealing with a crush. I have never dated and I never plan to until I can support a marriage (or would be able to fairly soon or when I need to). I believe the purpose of dating is looking for a wife and should only be done with the intent of marriage. I think dating 'to get to know each other' is garbage honestly and so basically, I see dating as something very serious and of great importance and value, not to be done lightly.
I appreciate all advice. If you see this topic 3 years after it was started I still appreciate the replies, even if it's just a handful of words. All and any advice/guidance/comfort is appreciated and will be made note of.How should I deal with this?
Just tell her what you feel and see what's her reaction about this.
The main point is as long as you are willing to try your best to settle the financial for your future and you will take care of her and treat her like she should treaten. Anything could be possible, dont' be afraid of fail. It's a good thing to let people know aht we feel specially the one we love. Good luck....How should I deal with this?
Ok
Seems like you REALLY like her
Ok don't be scared to tell her..
When I like a guy I tell him
You should just get it off your chest
But be like ';I want to tell you something but I don't want you to feel weird or this to affect our friendship'; it usually helps =)
I hate everything about myself. Any advise?
I hate everything about myself! The way I look, act, feel. The worst is the way I act. At home Im always cussing at everyone and hate them. With good reason after all the abuse Ive gone through. And of course when I told the police I ended up in a metal hospital for a week and a half. WTF??? How does that make sense??? At school I change from day to day. One day I will be silent and anti social while the next day Im loud and will tell everyone everything about myself which embarrasses me and most people don't care to hear. When Im with friends Im the thoughtful caring person you could tell anything. I hate how im like this! I want to have a good relationship with my family. I want to be the fun person at school but still know when to shut it. And I want to have the last one all the time. I cant help it all though! THen there's my looks. Im way to hairy for my age and that's just... ew. Hair is gross. I cant shave it of wax it so Im stuck hiding my body all the time. Then the way I feel about things is rebellious and I don't like that cuz it gets me in bad places. Then Im gay so I have to deal with crushing on strait guys and getting hurt. My homophobic family who would kill me if they knew and the rest of society. This is more of a rant about myself but... Any tips on fixing all this or learning to like it?I hate everything about myself. Any advise?
ya your too concerned with ';me me me'; instead of ';them them them'; don't worry about you join the group organism of humanity and things will align themselves to harmonious benefitI hate everything about myself. Any advise?
';the rest of society';
The rest of society isn't that bad, a LOT of people aren't homophobic
Once you're out of high school and all its drama you really won't care anymore. Go off to college and live in a dorm, get a job, join school groups, make new friends, it will be a whole new start.
get laid
That's..... Deep.....
You just have to wait til your 18 I'm afraid, then move yourself out of that horrible situation to a city more accepting of gays.
Being hairy isn't that bad when you're older. I am too, and a lot of guys actually like it, so I wouldn't worry.
Feel better friend:-).
its called being a teenager.
embrace ur gayness for one and your not alone here's a tip...you must tell ur family either they love you as you or they love the mask you try to defend yourself with.
Don't worry. It's just puberty. Life gets much better when you graduate from high school and move out.
My teen aged years were hell. Life really does get better. I promise.
ya your too concerned with ';me me me'; instead of ';them them them'; don't worry about you join the group organism of humanity and things will align themselves to harmonious benefitI hate everything about myself. Any advise?
';the rest of society';
The rest of society isn't that bad, a LOT of people aren't homophobic
Once you're out of high school and all its drama you really won't care anymore. Go off to college and live in a dorm, get a job, join school groups, make new friends, it will be a whole new start.
get laid
That's..... Deep.....
You just have to wait til your 18 I'm afraid, then move yourself out of that horrible situation to a city more accepting of gays.
Being hairy isn't that bad when you're older. I am too, and a lot of guys actually like it, so I wouldn't worry.
Feel better friend:-).
its called being a teenager.
embrace ur gayness for one and your not alone here's a tip...you must tell ur family either they love you as you or they love the mask you try to defend yourself with.
Don't worry. It's just puberty. Life gets much better when you graduate from high school and move out.
My teen aged years were hell. Life really does get better. I promise.
Am I destined to cheat?
I have been married for 9 months now, and I absolutely LOVE my husband, we are best friends. However, sometimes I find myself fantasizing about other men.
I used to be kinda crazy %26amp; free spirited, never skanky, but would occasionally forget all my responsibilities for a moment of passion. Does this mean that I am destined to cheat on my man? I have crushes, and fantasize, but I can't really imagine acting on it, or betraying him. But, as a newlywed, I still feel unsure about how to deal with crushes, etc...is this normal?Am I destined to cheat?
It all depends on what you train your mind to do before you get in a situation.
I use, as an example, 3 couples I know personally tried to be celibate until marriage, but failed miserably and ended up having to get married early because of pregnancy. If they were raised with certain moral values how did this happen? Because all of the people involved were from very sheltered backgrounds and NEVER talked about sex... not with parents, friends, teachers, or counselors. So when things got passionate when they were making out, they had never thought about where the point to stop was, and they ended up having passionate (but unprotected) sex. Their lack of forethought caused them to end up in an embarrassing situation. My mother, on the other hand, was uncomfortably open about the sex talks during my upbringing. So when I got in the same type of situation, I had already decided what my limits were, and when I reached them, I stopped. I had trained myself mentally.
My point? Your situation of fantasizing about other men is similar. When you fantasize, make an effort to decide where that fantasy would stop if someday a situation arose that was reality. You WILL meet a man someday that wants to fulfill your fantasy, but it will be your forethought and mental practice that will make you stop. You'd be amazed how well you can handle a situation when you've analyzed it and made the appropriate decisions ahead of time.
So don't second guess yourself. You're not going to cheat unless you tell yourself that you are going to cheat. Tell yourself that they are just fantasies and that you'll never, ever act on them, and you won't.Am I destined to cheat?
If they are passing then they are nothing to worry about especially since you ';can't really imagine acting on it.';
Don't mention it. Don't cheat. And you will do fine.
This is one of those things where you make your own destiny.
';Destined'; to cheat? That's the most ridiculous concept I ever heard!
If you truly love your man, that will prevent you from hurting and betraying him. Just keep your fantasy life as fantasy.
i think that its harmless if you really love your hubby you could lead a stray
So was i but i don't let them get physical.
Maybe you shouldn't have married if when obviously you still want to act all crazy and ';forget your responsibilities for a moment of passion';. Marriage means settling down, other men should not exist in your fantasy life..the only man you should be thinking about is your husband.
Everyone gets crushes. Everyone has fantasies.
The only question here is are you mature enough to deal with them in a manner consistent with your marriage.
No, it doesn't. You're just getting used to new parameters now that you're married, and the limitations on you they imply. Thoughts and actions are two dfferent things. Thoughts are benign; actions have consequences. I suspect you'll be just fine. (I wouldn't mind spending some time with that cute little avatar of yours, though.) Good luck to you.
It is perfectly normal, I can promise you he is doing the same things! You just have to know not to further the emotions and act on them! If you love him and you truly want to be with him, you will not cheat on him. But it is ok to have little crushes and to fantasize about other men, just dont take it to far and actually cheat on him. I wouldnt really let him know either, as it is normal and natural, but no one likes to know that their other half is dreaming of another person! You wouldnt like to know he's doing it! But everyone is guilty of it!
fantasy is what it is. Used right it can help you and your hubby. my wife and i fantasize all the time and we have been married for well a long time.oh and we never cheated on each other.
No you take vows for a reason , and I do not believe in cheating!
You are never destined to cheat.
If YOU believe it is inevitable, then it will probably happen.
YOU are in control of your actions.
Quit DWELLING on fantasies about other men.
I would just make a point not to entertain those thoughts. Sure, they may come into your head like I'm sure they do for many men.. but the ';wrong doing'; of this situation is when you dwell on them and fantasize. Try to keep your mind on your great husband. You don't sound abnormal to me! If you don't want to cheat, you won't.
NO destiny involved!
it's all about the choices you make!
I used to be kinda crazy %26amp; free spirited, never skanky, but would occasionally forget all my responsibilities for a moment of passion. Does this mean that I am destined to cheat on my man? I have crushes, and fantasize, but I can't really imagine acting on it, or betraying him. But, as a newlywed, I still feel unsure about how to deal with crushes, etc...is this normal?Am I destined to cheat?
It all depends on what you train your mind to do before you get in a situation.
I use, as an example, 3 couples I know personally tried to be celibate until marriage, but failed miserably and ended up having to get married early because of pregnancy. If they were raised with certain moral values how did this happen? Because all of the people involved were from very sheltered backgrounds and NEVER talked about sex... not with parents, friends, teachers, or counselors. So when things got passionate when they were making out, they had never thought about where the point to stop was, and they ended up having passionate (but unprotected) sex. Their lack of forethought caused them to end up in an embarrassing situation. My mother, on the other hand, was uncomfortably open about the sex talks during my upbringing. So when I got in the same type of situation, I had already decided what my limits were, and when I reached them, I stopped. I had trained myself mentally.
My point? Your situation of fantasizing about other men is similar. When you fantasize, make an effort to decide where that fantasy would stop if someday a situation arose that was reality. You WILL meet a man someday that wants to fulfill your fantasy, but it will be your forethought and mental practice that will make you stop. You'd be amazed how well you can handle a situation when you've analyzed it and made the appropriate decisions ahead of time.
So don't second guess yourself. You're not going to cheat unless you tell yourself that you are going to cheat. Tell yourself that they are just fantasies and that you'll never, ever act on them, and you won't.Am I destined to cheat?
If they are passing then they are nothing to worry about especially since you ';can't really imagine acting on it.';
Don't mention it. Don't cheat. And you will do fine.
This is one of those things where you make your own destiny.
';Destined'; to cheat? That's the most ridiculous concept I ever heard!
If you truly love your man, that will prevent you from hurting and betraying him. Just keep your fantasy life as fantasy.
i think that its harmless if you really love your hubby you could lead a stray
So was i but i don't let them get physical.
Maybe you shouldn't have married if when obviously you still want to act all crazy and ';forget your responsibilities for a moment of passion';. Marriage means settling down, other men should not exist in your fantasy life..the only man you should be thinking about is your husband.
Everyone gets crushes. Everyone has fantasies.
The only question here is are you mature enough to deal with them in a manner consistent with your marriage.
No, it doesn't. You're just getting used to new parameters now that you're married, and the limitations on you they imply. Thoughts and actions are two dfferent things. Thoughts are benign; actions have consequences. I suspect you'll be just fine. (I wouldn't mind spending some time with that cute little avatar of yours, though.) Good luck to you.
It is perfectly normal, I can promise you he is doing the same things! You just have to know not to further the emotions and act on them! If you love him and you truly want to be with him, you will not cheat on him. But it is ok to have little crushes and to fantasize about other men, just dont take it to far and actually cheat on him. I wouldnt really let him know either, as it is normal and natural, but no one likes to know that their other half is dreaming of another person! You wouldnt like to know he's doing it! But everyone is guilty of it!
fantasy is what it is. Used right it can help you and your hubby. my wife and i fantasize all the time and we have been married for well a long time.oh and we never cheated on each other.
No you take vows for a reason , and I do not believe in cheating!
You are never destined to cheat.
If YOU believe it is inevitable, then it will probably happen.
YOU are in control of your actions.
Quit DWELLING on fantasies about other men.
I would just make a point not to entertain those thoughts. Sure, they may come into your head like I'm sure they do for many men.. but the ';wrong doing'; of this situation is when you dwell on them and fantasize. Try to keep your mind on your great husband. You don't sound abnormal to me! If you don't want to cheat, you won't.
NO destiny involved!
it's all about the choices you make!
I think I'm in trouble...?
ok.here's the problem.i keep talking a lot abt my crush, %26amp; how cute he looks %26amp; some guys in his class had gone %26amp; told him that i talk of him in a wrong way %26amp; that i constantly keep on complimenting his looks.apparently,my crush thinks i'm a psychopath now(seriously-one of my friends had explained to him that it's just my hyper way of dealing with crushes %26amp; that it's my personality but he wasn't convinced)...now he's freaked out by everything i do.(he doesn't know me very well.we hardly talk %26amp; i assume he doesn't know my real character at all,or has even bothered to find out).when i confronted him abt this %26amp; apologised,he just told me that he didn't know who to trust.was this a wise thing to do?
plus i just want to know why he thinks i'm such a psycho.i mean,i don't think that ANYONE would be freaked out by compliments %26amp; attention,are they?
guys-what would you do in a situation like this?listen to your friends,or ask the girl herself?would you even give her a chance to explain?I think I'm in trouble...?
Well, juz relax %26amp; calm..move on with your study which is more important than anything.If you are a successful person in future,you find more better man in the Globe.I think I'm in trouble...?
forget about hom. move on. even if he becomes a friend ,it will not last very long.
Write a note to him tell him that not what you mean and tell him what you really mean.
HES LISENING TO HIS FRIENDS SO MAKE THEM FESS UP OR U PUT SOMETHING OUT BOUT THEM
Just let it go. Over time people will forget. If you still like him after a few weeks try talking to him.
plus i just want to know why he thinks i'm such a psycho.i mean,i don't think that ANYONE would be freaked out by compliments %26amp; attention,are they?
guys-what would you do in a situation like this?listen to your friends,or ask the girl herself?would you even give her a chance to explain?I think I'm in trouble...?
Well, juz relax %26amp; calm..move on with your study which is more important than anything.If you are a successful person in future,you find more better man in the Globe.I think I'm in trouble...?
forget about hom. move on. even if he becomes a friend ,it will not last very long.
Write a note to him tell him that not what you mean and tell him what you really mean.
HES LISENING TO HIS FRIENDS SO MAKE THEM FESS UP OR U PUT SOMETHING OUT BOUT THEM
Just let it go. Over time people will forget. If you still like him after a few weeks try talking to him.
How do you deal with having a new crush?
1. Do you get the confidence to tal to them
2. Do you ask your best friend to find out if he/she likes you
3. Do nothing at all and let them get awayHow do you deal with having a new crush?
Get the confidence to talk to them. If your best friend is friends with the guy or girl, stick close to the friend and have them introduce you. There's ways of letting someone know that you are interested without blurting it out. If it's a girl with the crush, I recommend, smiling a lot and acting kinda shy around the guy. Whenever you talk, look intensely into his eyes, he'll put up on it. How to look intense, think about kissing him, him hugging you, holding hands, or his arms around you while walking together, it will reflect in you eyes. If it's a guy with the crush, bite the bullet and ask the girl out.How do you deal with having a new crush?
Hmm let's see, let me go back, I'm 34 and engaged but I know about crushes...so here goes:
First of all, if you like someone, don't let them get away, i think you should get the confidence to talk to them. You never know, they might just feel the same way about you. And I normally let my best friend go ';feel them out'; first..you know, see if they at all interested in me and if so, then I proceed and go talk to them and if not, I just let them get away. Trust me, they won't be the first, nor the last...smile
I acknowledge it, confront it and see what happens. I believe in going after what you want. There are only two things that can happen, either you get turned down or you beging another chapter in your life.
4. None of the above!
I would flirt a little bit with them and try to talk to them... if it's reciprocated, you're golden! If they seem to not smile and not talk back to you, it doesn't look good. The key thing here is to not seem like you're trying hard. That's such a turn off. :)
If I have a friend that's also their friend or knws them then I set up this elaborate plan where they find out if he likes me and if so they tell him I like him. Sometimes I'll get up the cofidence to tell them but that's kind of rare for me, I'm really shy about those kinds of things.
my bestfriend of 17yrs introduced me 2 her bf at coney island
through out the day he was picking on me short story i have a crush on him but don't want 2 date him or lose my 17 yr friendship with my bestfriend.no guy has ever come between me %26amp; my bestfriend out of the 17yrs we've been bestfriends.
btw he's 21 she's 34 and i'm 35
ask them out
1 %26amp;%26amp; 2
1
1 %26amp; 2.
I would do the first one. But if I couldn't talk to them (like a lifeguard) I would flirt with them from a distance, I'm so not shy when it comes to guys. I sometimes have to go and ask guys out for my friends.
Unfortunately I've done #3 too many times. :'(
i say number 2, but just make sure they are not on of those friends that just goes right up and is like '' hey! do you like____?? ';
Hi I'm Jose's daughter all you gotta do is confess how you feel . Do 1%26amp; 2
either of the three
I'm so shy so Idk...
I obsess over them secretly for awhile, try to talk to them if they are a friend or mutual friend.
Get my bff to hang around them.
And then do nohting except try to hint my likeyness,
if you are single find a way to find out if they like you the same way and all best of luck if your not single your relationship isnt what you want in your life and you need to sit that someone down and talk.
2. Do you ask your best friend to find out if he/she likes you
3. Do nothing at all and let them get awayHow do you deal with having a new crush?
Get the confidence to talk to them. If your best friend is friends with the guy or girl, stick close to the friend and have them introduce you. There's ways of letting someone know that you are interested without blurting it out. If it's a girl with the crush, I recommend, smiling a lot and acting kinda shy around the guy. Whenever you talk, look intensely into his eyes, he'll put up on it. How to look intense, think about kissing him, him hugging you, holding hands, or his arms around you while walking together, it will reflect in you eyes. If it's a guy with the crush, bite the bullet and ask the girl out.How do you deal with having a new crush?
Hmm let's see, let me go back, I'm 34 and engaged but I know about crushes...so here goes:
First of all, if you like someone, don't let them get away, i think you should get the confidence to talk to them. You never know, they might just feel the same way about you. And I normally let my best friend go ';feel them out'; first..you know, see if they at all interested in me and if so, then I proceed and go talk to them and if not, I just let them get away. Trust me, they won't be the first, nor the last...smile
I acknowledge it, confront it and see what happens. I believe in going after what you want. There are only two things that can happen, either you get turned down or you beging another chapter in your life.
4. None of the above!
I would flirt a little bit with them and try to talk to them... if it's reciprocated, you're golden! If they seem to not smile and not talk back to you, it doesn't look good. The key thing here is to not seem like you're trying hard. That's such a turn off. :)
If I have a friend that's also their friend or knws them then I set up this elaborate plan where they find out if he likes me and if so they tell him I like him. Sometimes I'll get up the cofidence to tell them but that's kind of rare for me, I'm really shy about those kinds of things.
my bestfriend of 17yrs introduced me 2 her bf at coney island
through out the day he was picking on me short story i have a crush on him but don't want 2 date him or lose my 17 yr friendship with my bestfriend.no guy has ever come between me %26amp; my bestfriend out of the 17yrs we've been bestfriends.
btw he's 21 she's 34 and i'm 35
ask them out
1 %26amp;%26amp; 2
1
1 %26amp; 2.
I would do the first one. But if I couldn't talk to them (like a lifeguard) I would flirt with them from a distance, I'm so not shy when it comes to guys. I sometimes have to go and ask guys out for my friends.
Unfortunately I've done #3 too many times. :'(
i say number 2, but just make sure they are not on of those friends that just goes right up and is like '' hey! do you like____?? ';
Hi I'm Jose's daughter all you gotta do is confess how you feel . Do 1%26amp; 2
either of the three
I'm so shy so Idk...
I obsess over them secretly for awhile, try to talk to them if they are a friend or mutual friend.
Get my bff to hang around them.
And then do nohting except try to hint my likeyness,
if you are single find a way to find out if they like you the same way and all best of luck if your not single your relationship isnt what you want in your life and you need to sit that someone down and talk.
How should i go about dealing with this crush?
ive had this gay crush on another boy for a few months now who im somewhat good friends with. it started a while back because i was getting the feeling that he liked me because he would always flirt with me, try to be around me alot and other people would even say it because of the way he would act but he ignores me sometimes and now has a girlfriend so i kind of think he doesnt anymore so i really want to get over this crush because its driving me crazy. i still always try to help him whenever i can and basically try and be a good friend even if he doesnt do the same for me all the time but do you think the best way to get over him would be to stop talking to him? if not what would you doHow should i go about dealing with this crush?
The best way to forget about him is to get yourself busy. It helps, because when you have nothing to do you kind of think about the person you like. But when you're busy, your mind concentrates on whatever you're doing, leaving no room for thoughts about him.
I guess ignoring him would do. But if he says hi, just say hi back.
The best way to forget about him is to get yourself busy. It helps, because when you have nothing to do you kind of think about the person you like. But when you're busy, your mind concentrates on whatever you're doing, leaving no room for thoughts about him.
I guess ignoring him would do. But if he says hi, just say hi back.
Gays-how did you deal with HUGE crushes in high school?
so there's this girl, i kinda know she's into girls because she seems like it and we stared at each other non stop for an entire semester of school really blatantly (and sexyly), but nothing more and i think it frustrated both of us being shy/socially conscious and gay, but attracted to each other and in high school where making a move on someone of the same sex is kind of a big deal.
now school's over and she's going to college next year so my question is being gay HOW DID YOU DEAL WITH THIS bullshit frustration/being seriously infatuated but feeling unable to do anything about it in high school? i want this girl still SO badly. she's always on my mind but it's time to let go...right? cuz i feel like a huge creeper but then again i know she was definitely into me by the way she looked at me and doing it so much! wtf???Gays-how did you deal with HUGE crushes in high school?
Before you make a move, if you do, are you absolutely 100% sure she is gay? Cos if she isn't, you're going to look a complete idiot if you do anything about it.
However, my advice would simply be to try to move on, find someone else! There's always more than one for every person, find you're next!!Gays-how did you deal with HUGE crushes in high school?
haha u remind me of me...I got a crush on this girl like 2 years ago and I still have feelings for her she was sooo hot tho. I dealt with it by skipping that class because it hurt me a lot not being able to act on it.
I think you should just find a way to talk to her because she obviously liked you back so she will appreciate it.
I'd say just talk to her. If she was gay or whatever, talking to her and getting to know her is one of the best ways to find out for sure. I mean, I've had huge crushes, well mainly one, but he's moving and theres nothing I can do about it. And I was too chicken to tell him that I liked him, even though I had an inkling that he was at least bi. And now I've lost the chance.
But you have to be courageous.
You just have to talk to her. She may be going to college, but that doesn't mean that you'll lose contact with her forever. Ya'know? And besides, if she's going to college, most people come out in college, so you'd have an even better chance of her being gay.
Good luck
now school's over and she's going to college next year so my question is being gay HOW DID YOU DEAL WITH THIS bullshit frustration/being seriously infatuated but feeling unable to do anything about it in high school? i want this girl still SO badly. she's always on my mind but it's time to let go...right? cuz i feel like a huge creeper but then again i know she was definitely into me by the way she looked at me and doing it so much! wtf???Gays-how did you deal with HUGE crushes in high school?
Before you make a move, if you do, are you absolutely 100% sure she is gay? Cos if she isn't, you're going to look a complete idiot if you do anything about it.
However, my advice would simply be to try to move on, find someone else! There's always more than one for every person, find you're next!!Gays-how did you deal with HUGE crushes in high school?
haha u remind me of me...I got a crush on this girl like 2 years ago and I still have feelings for her she was sooo hot tho. I dealt with it by skipping that class because it hurt me a lot not being able to act on it.
I think you should just find a way to talk to her because she obviously liked you back so she will appreciate it.
I'd say just talk to her. If she was gay or whatever, talking to her and getting to know her is one of the best ways to find out for sure. I mean, I've had huge crushes, well mainly one, but he's moving and theres nothing I can do about it. And I was too chicken to tell him that I liked him, even though I had an inkling that he was at least bi. And now I've lost the chance.
But you have to be courageous.
You just have to talk to her. She may be going to college, but that doesn't mean that you'll lose contact with her forever. Ya'know? And besides, if she's going to college, most people come out in college, so you'd have an even better chance of her being gay.
Good luck
For those in relationships: How do you deal with fleeting crushes?
I've been with my boyfriend for three years, and I really, really love him. I know he feels the same and I think we'll be together for a long time to come.
But there is an issue in that, for the moment, he and I are in a long-distance relationship, and in his frequent absense, my eyes (and my eyes alone) stray to attractive friends-of-friends, good-looking work colleagues, etc... Maybe this has something to do with being in my early 20's, too...
I'd never act on any of these crushes, because that's all they are, and what I have with my boyfriend is real. But sometimes I can't stop my mind from wandering, and I just feel bad for liking other guys when I can't help myself. I'd never cheat on my boyfriend, but by thinking about others, I feel like I do cheat, a little.
So, a question for any other women (or even men) out there in long-term relationships: Do you ever get crazy, all-consuming crushes on someone other than your partner? And how do you deal with that?
Thanks!For those in relationships: How do you deal with fleeting crushes?
Well I have a few crushes, and the celeb ones are crap because the internet is tempting.
I try to remember that by looking or even fantasising isn't that bad, and it passes me by. It's really easy if it's a sexual thing, because when your focusing on your partner and you're a bit bored you can think of the sexy eys, body whatever you have seen, and you get through it.
I have a crush on my mrs best mate, she looks like Cameron Diaz a bit. But it's only physical in basis.For those in relationships: How do you deal with fleeting crushes?
need advice?
my friend Alice is getting her degree to be a therapist.
She can really help you with anything that you need.
She's gotten many emails from all over the world and has given profesional advice to each and every one of the people.
and all of the people followed the advice and got through they're problem
she wants to help people even before she gets her degree so give her an email of your problem at askalice13@yahoo.com
whst i did is just stare at him and think what you don't like about him and keep put it in your mine and time pass by you won't be liking him and think that your bf is the best guy for you
But there is an issue in that, for the moment, he and I are in a long-distance relationship, and in his frequent absense, my eyes (and my eyes alone) stray to attractive friends-of-friends, good-looking work colleagues, etc... Maybe this has something to do with being in my early 20's, too...
I'd never act on any of these crushes, because that's all they are, and what I have with my boyfriend is real. But sometimes I can't stop my mind from wandering, and I just feel bad for liking other guys when I can't help myself. I'd never cheat on my boyfriend, but by thinking about others, I feel like I do cheat, a little.
So, a question for any other women (or even men) out there in long-term relationships: Do you ever get crazy, all-consuming crushes on someone other than your partner? And how do you deal with that?
Thanks!For those in relationships: How do you deal with fleeting crushes?
Well I have a few crushes, and the celeb ones are crap because the internet is tempting.
I try to remember that by looking or even fantasising isn't that bad, and it passes me by. It's really easy if it's a sexual thing, because when your focusing on your partner and you're a bit bored you can think of the sexy eys, body whatever you have seen, and you get through it.
I have a crush on my mrs best mate, she looks like Cameron Diaz a bit. But it's only physical in basis.For those in relationships: How do you deal with fleeting crushes?
need advice?
my friend Alice is getting her degree to be a therapist.
She can really help you with anything that you need.
She's gotten many emails from all over the world and has given profesional advice to each and every one of the people.
and all of the people followed the advice and got through they're problem
she wants to help people even before she gets her degree so give her an email of your problem at askalice13@yahoo.com
whst i did is just stare at him and think what you don't like about him and keep put it in your mine and time pass by you won't be liking him and think that your bf is the best guy for you
How can I tell if this guy I go to school with is interested enough in me to hangout outside of school?
We have only had 2 classes together in all of highschool, we are about to graduate and I would really like to hangoutwith him. It is a bit hard because our friends really aren't the same at all. I have one class with him this semester and I missed about 2 weeks, and he asked my friend in the class what happend to me. He always smiles at me in the hall and will like make comments into my conversations if he hears it in the hallway. It's just so random, and I never know what to say to him when he tries to talk to me. so nervous. I haven't to deal witha crush like this in so long. I know he smokes weed like myself, and I could ask him to burn like... im just scared.. but.. I don't even know how to approach this one.How can I tell if this guy I go to school with is interested enough in me to hangout outside of school?
haha ask him if he can get you weed bc u cant find any....then ask him to blazeee....or tell him ull smoke him up if he finds u weed idk, seems pretty simpleHow can I tell if this guy I go to school with is interested enough in me to hangout outside of school?
just ask if he wants to hang out some time its not hard really. dont do the weed thing thats kindav weird to me
haha ask him if he can get you weed bc u cant find any....then ask him to blazeee....or tell him ull smoke him up if he finds u weed idk, seems pretty simpleHow can I tell if this guy I go to school with is interested enough in me to hangout outside of school?
just ask if he wants to hang out some time its not hard really. dont do the weed thing thats kindav weird to me
Getting over a Crush on a Co-worker?
I'm trying to deal with a crush I have on a co-worker. She likes someone else (outside work), but she doesn't know that I know. She is always picking/teasing me in a playful manner, so I told her I thought she was nice and asked her out for drinks. I expected her to say no (because she likes someone else), but she accepted. I feel she is just being nice, to preserve the friendship. We are going out next week, and I feel its going to be ackward because I feel she's just doing it to be nice. I tried to avoid her to help get over this crush, and gather my thoughts. But if she notices I'm not around, she seems to push for my attention (emailing me, starting conversation, teasing me, etc)
Should I go through with the date? Even if it doesn't work out, how can I get over a girl I work with when she strives for my attention? I'm trying to prevent things from being akward between us, since I do work with her and see her every day.Getting over a Crush on a Co-worker?
If she does like someone else that shouldnt stop you on going after her. The way i see it is that you have the upper hand on this other guy cause you see her everyday at work and you are also taking her out on a date. so be strong and give her everything you got. show her that you like her and she will show you that she likes you (plus she has been showing you the whole time by craving your attention) I dont know if you knew that but she likes you dude. and thats a no brainer. so dont put your self down cause she likes somebody else. i like many woman and what ever i get first is the one i stay with :)
so dont give up and dont run away. give it what you got and hopefully thats enough to get the girl!
good luck with everything!!
Should I go through with the date? Even if it doesn't work out, how can I get over a girl I work with when she strives for my attention? I'm trying to prevent things from being akward between us, since I do work with her and see her every day.Getting over a Crush on a Co-worker?
If she does like someone else that shouldnt stop you on going after her. The way i see it is that you have the upper hand on this other guy cause you see her everyday at work and you are also taking her out on a date. so be strong and give her everything you got. show her that you like her and she will show you that she likes you (plus she has been showing you the whole time by craving your attention) I dont know if you knew that but she likes you dude. and thats a no brainer. so dont put your self down cause she likes somebody else. i like many woman and what ever i get first is the one i stay with :)
so dont give up and dont run away. give it what you got and hopefully thats enough to get the girl!
good luck with everything!!
I have a crush on my manager!!!!!!!!!?
how do I get rid of it? Or deal with it. He is 36 and married and I am 21 and not looking to pursue a married old guy (talk about awkward). We work together all the time, and we have an excellent work relationship (I dont want to loose that), I just want to deal with the crush aspect. I am respected at work and have been with the company for 4 years. I dont know what is wrong with me...aaarggg...it is so frustrating...ne ideasI have a crush on my manager!!!!!!!!!?
i could say a bunch of things like this is a deep seeded power thing you have most likely becuase of you father or something along those lines (bassically what any psychiatrist would tell you) but i don't beleive that stuff a lot of times. i do think it would be best for you and your manager if you were able to stop obsessing over him. becuase even if it is not hurting him obsessing over things is rarely good for yourself. how to stop obsessing is much more difficult. i guess you could try to find a boyfriend or distract your self with something else which could work but might not. i think the best thing could be is realize it is only a crush and that really nothing good can come of it, and once you realize that idk maybe you will be able to stop. if you actually have feelings for him and it's not just a crush i dont think you can make those feelings go away but i still think that if you realize nothing good can come of it it will make things easier in the long run. i may be totally wrong though so...
those are just my thoughts hope they help :)I have a crush on my manager!!!!!!!!!?
Yikes! Don't act, that's for sure! You need to just let it pass. The rule is look but don't touch in this case....and don't speak (about it). If it's just a crush, it will fade naturally, so just leave things alone and all will be well.
Find a guy, and you won't feel that way anymore ;) Having an affair with a married guy is a no no. Having an affair with your married boss is a HUGE no no.
dont ask him out let him be da one to ask u outgrey hair african american hair
i could say a bunch of things like this is a deep seeded power thing you have most likely becuase of you father or something along those lines (bassically what any psychiatrist would tell you) but i don't beleive that stuff a lot of times. i do think it would be best for you and your manager if you were able to stop obsessing over him. becuase even if it is not hurting him obsessing over things is rarely good for yourself. how to stop obsessing is much more difficult. i guess you could try to find a boyfriend or distract your self with something else which could work but might not. i think the best thing could be is realize it is only a crush and that really nothing good can come of it, and once you realize that idk maybe you will be able to stop. if you actually have feelings for him and it's not just a crush i dont think you can make those feelings go away but i still think that if you realize nothing good can come of it it will make things easier in the long run. i may be totally wrong though so...
those are just my thoughts hope they help :)I have a crush on my manager!!!!!!!!!?
Yikes! Don't act, that's for sure! You need to just let it pass. The rule is look but don't touch in this case....and don't speak (about it). If it's just a crush, it will fade naturally, so just leave things alone and all will be well.
Find a guy, and you won't feel that way anymore ;) Having an affair with a married guy is a no no. Having an affair with your married boss is a HUGE no no.
dont ask him out let him be da one to ask u out
Umm crush on my coach?
i have a huge crush on him :X he's just tooooo cute/hot. he does obviously help me out when necessary by holding my hands %26amp; so on. ahh idk what to do should i just back off? he looks like 20 im 16. i could care less about the age difference it doesnt change my opinion about him. so yea how do i deal with this crush? he makes me kinda shy and i think it might affect my ice skatingUmm crush on my coach?
Cool! Just flirt with him and have fun. Enjoy your crush. He'll probably remain professional and you will respect that (you wouldn't like it if he was a skeevy guy that jumped a 16 year-old as soon as she batted her eyelashes at him), but who knows what could develop over time? Just take it slow. As you get to know him better, maybe his hotness will encourage you to skate even better to impress him.Umm crush on my coach?
i had a crush on my tumbling instructor once :) but ya just get over it cuz i really doubt that he feels the same
If this is the guy you want to be with then i say go for it!
If you want his attention, ask him for extra classes privatly. Maybe ask him to a movie or something. The more time u spend with him, the more he might fall in love with u!
*** him no1 will no
There is nothing wrong with this, people who like more mature people and not others their own age because they are immature, they tend to crush on older guys. Dealing with the crush is to ignore it, and think of him as a friend and don't think, wow I have a crush on him! Just say there goes the coach. He will catch on to the crush eventually if you look obvious.
Unfortunately at this time you are 16!!! Ask how old he is. If he is older than 18, WAIT!!! You don't want to get him in trouble do you? Yeah age difference isn't that big of a deal but there is weird rules like that. I know this crush might be very hard for you but just be yourself and hopefully he will still be single in a year.
Cool! Just flirt with him and have fun. Enjoy your crush. He'll probably remain professional and you will respect that (you wouldn't like it if he was a skeevy guy that jumped a 16 year-old as soon as she batted her eyelashes at him), but who knows what could develop over time? Just take it slow. As you get to know him better, maybe his hotness will encourage you to skate even better to impress him.Umm crush on my coach?
i had a crush on my tumbling instructor once :) but ya just get over it cuz i really doubt that he feels the same
If this is the guy you want to be with then i say go for it!
If you want his attention, ask him for extra classes privatly. Maybe ask him to a movie or something. The more time u spend with him, the more he might fall in love with u!
*** him no1 will no
There is nothing wrong with this, people who like more mature people and not others their own age because they are immature, they tend to crush on older guys. Dealing with the crush is to ignore it, and think of him as a friend and don't think, wow I have a crush on him! Just say there goes the coach. He will catch on to the crush eventually if you look obvious.
Unfortunately at this time you are 16!!! Ask how old he is. If he is older than 18, WAIT!!! You don't want to get him in trouble do you? Yeah age difference isn't that big of a deal but there is weird rules like that. I know this crush might be very hard for you but just be yourself and hopefully he will still be single in a year.
Another teenage crush advice question.?
I have seen many questions of dramatic teenagers seeking advice on how to deal with their crushes. In fact, I have written some myself (but this is a new account so you won't find them :P). But what the heck, they're fun to read and fun to write so, in the words of the Grammy nominated band OK Go, here it goes again.
Let me give you, the reader, a little background info on myself. I have crushed on many girls, and in almost all of the cases, I have tried to test the waters and failed miserably by making stupid bold gestures. For example, once I gave a girl a letter confessing my love along with a trinket. In the end, I ignore and get ignored by all of them. Lately, I have tried a new approach of waiting and distracting myself until the crush wears off. This time could be like any other or, perhaps with your help, I will be able to finally get over the hump, so to speak.
Now let me tell you about the girl. Ever since I heard of her I was interested (about 2.5 years ago). She's cute, pretty, funny, etc. Basically perfect. However, there are many catches. First off, she is my friend's sister. This is one of my best friends,and I know he would be neutral to my pursuit of his sister. He will not help nor do I wish to get his help. So in your answers, don't involve him. Nextly, a few months ago, she had a boyfriend. I have been going over to my friend's house more often to see her there but I have never found the boyfriend. First task should be to see if she is still in this relationship. How to do so, of course, should be part of your answer. Also, striking up a conversation is hard since she is one grade below me. I barely see her at school, and seeing her makes me a bit numb, defensive even. I also wish to avoid anything too direct. Please post complete answers, they are more fun to read. Have fun!Another teenage crush advice question.?
Well the first thing i have to say is NEVER come on strong. If you hesitate to do it or second guess yourself, its probably too much. But dont get discouraged. The best thing you can be to a girl is friendly, not creeper friendly but just cordial and genuinely friendly. Girls love guys who are super nice and mean it. Thats the first thing that sweeps them off their feet. Considering the fact that you have liked her for a long time, i'm guessing you've dropped SOME sort of maybe minor hint or flirty gesture. Another thing, always make sure that your friend is completely content with you pursuing his sister because sometimes they get defensive and it can hurt a friendship. But thats beside the point. Secondly, if she has a myspace of facebook check around on her page and see if there is any recent activity from any guys and just do some research, or you could even ask your friend. Another thing, age doesnt really matter. If you're confident and heartfelt when you talk to her striking up a conversation should actually be quite simple. Be concerned at her answers and dig deep at the little things. Make small talk into Big talk. Be interested.
I wish you the greatest of luck and i hope some or any of this works. Post and tell us how it goes! Go get her tiger :)
Let me give you, the reader, a little background info on myself. I have crushed on many girls, and in almost all of the cases, I have tried to test the waters and failed miserably by making stupid bold gestures. For example, once I gave a girl a letter confessing my love along with a trinket. In the end, I ignore and get ignored by all of them. Lately, I have tried a new approach of waiting and distracting myself until the crush wears off. This time could be like any other or, perhaps with your help, I will be able to finally get over the hump, so to speak.
Now let me tell you about the girl. Ever since I heard of her I was interested (about 2.5 years ago). She's cute, pretty, funny, etc. Basically perfect. However, there are many catches. First off, she is my friend's sister. This is one of my best friends,and I know he would be neutral to my pursuit of his sister. He will not help nor do I wish to get his help. So in your answers, don't involve him. Nextly, a few months ago, she had a boyfriend. I have been going over to my friend's house more often to see her there but I have never found the boyfriend. First task should be to see if she is still in this relationship. How to do so, of course, should be part of your answer. Also, striking up a conversation is hard since she is one grade below me. I barely see her at school, and seeing her makes me a bit numb, defensive even. I also wish to avoid anything too direct. Please post complete answers, they are more fun to read. Have fun!Another teenage crush advice question.?
Well the first thing i have to say is NEVER come on strong. If you hesitate to do it or second guess yourself, its probably too much. But dont get discouraged. The best thing you can be to a girl is friendly, not creeper friendly but just cordial and genuinely friendly. Girls love guys who are super nice and mean it. Thats the first thing that sweeps them off their feet. Considering the fact that you have liked her for a long time, i'm guessing you've dropped SOME sort of maybe minor hint or flirty gesture. Another thing, always make sure that your friend is completely content with you pursuing his sister because sometimes they get defensive and it can hurt a friendship. But thats beside the point. Secondly, if she has a myspace of facebook check around on her page and see if there is any recent activity from any guys and just do some research, or you could even ask your friend. Another thing, age doesnt really matter. If you're confident and heartfelt when you talk to her striking up a conversation should actually be quite simple. Be concerned at her answers and dig deep at the little things. Make small talk into Big talk. Be interested.
I wish you the greatest of luck and i hope some or any of this works. Post and tell us how it goes! Go get her tiger :)
What to do about a first crush on a girl?
I was at my friend's softball game the other day, and I noticed this girl that I had only seen a few times before in passing. I had always thought she was cute before, but this was the first time that I really noticed her, and I haven't been able to get her off my mind since. I have this huge pathetic crush on this girl that I don't know much about but haven't been able to stop thinking about. I mean I know her name, and I've seen her play softball a couple times (I think I even played her once without realizing it). I know she seems to be pretty quiet and seems to keep to herself a little bit, at least that's what I've observed from my hopeless staring lol but now what?
This may sound so juvenile, but how do you deal with a crush? I mean I'm 18 and I've had crushes before, but for some reason I'm more serious about this one than ever before and I don't actually know what to do. How do you pursue a crush on someone you hardly know?
Nobody knows I'm gay, and I highly doubt she is, it's just I don't know, I feel like a loser but this is my first serious crush on a girl and I don't even know where to begin. I'm completely lost on what happens next, can anyone help?What to do about a first crush on a girl?
Alright... a softball team? This might sound stereotypical, but a lot of lesbians do play softball. So I would be surprised if she wasn't at least curious.
Anyway... you have one thing in common softball. So maybe if you see her again wait until after the softball game, and talk to her.
Tell her how well she played or something... tell her your name.
If there is something she is really good at, ask her if she'd mind helping you out in that area.
Or you could be really blunt, and ask her out... but the above is all about establishing some sort of friendship, then once that foundation is set... finding out or getting an inkling on which gender she prefers.
Then doing the whole date thing.What to do about a first crush on a girl?
act friendly and introduce yourself,.. think like you don't know her name
well what i would do if i was in your position is first see if the girl is gay if she is see if your compatible and if it works out between you get to know each other and if your really serious take it to the next step and propose but that's if your really serious and if none of that works and she finds out your gay don't let people bother you if they pick on you and if shes not gay try to find someone else who you know is gay so you don't get rejected again and see if any thing works out between you that's what i would do PS.i love to help so if you have any other questions tell me
This may sound so juvenile, but how do you deal with a crush? I mean I'm 18 and I've had crushes before, but for some reason I'm more serious about this one than ever before and I don't actually know what to do. How do you pursue a crush on someone you hardly know?
Nobody knows I'm gay, and I highly doubt she is, it's just I don't know, I feel like a loser but this is my first serious crush on a girl and I don't even know where to begin. I'm completely lost on what happens next, can anyone help?What to do about a first crush on a girl?
Alright... a softball team? This might sound stereotypical, but a lot of lesbians do play softball. So I would be surprised if she wasn't at least curious.
Anyway... you have one thing in common softball. So maybe if you see her again wait until after the softball game, and talk to her.
Tell her how well she played or something... tell her your name.
If there is something she is really good at, ask her if she'd mind helping you out in that area.
Or you could be really blunt, and ask her out... but the above is all about establishing some sort of friendship, then once that foundation is set... finding out or getting an inkling on which gender she prefers.
Then doing the whole date thing.What to do about a first crush on a girl?
act friendly and introduce yourself,.. think like you don't know her name
well what i would do if i was in your position is first see if the girl is gay if she is see if your compatible and if it works out between you get to know each other and if your really serious take it to the next step and propose but that's if your really serious and if none of that works and she finds out your gay don't let people bother you if they pick on you and if shes not gay try to find someone else who you know is gay so you don't get rejected again and see if any thing works out between you that's what i would do PS.i love to help so if you have any other questions tell me
How to deal with passion?
How to deal with having a crush on someone when you're a teenager?How to deal with passion?
don't rush into anything too fast i understand your feelings but if your gonna bang someone make sure you are protected I know your parents prolly tell you the same things but they aren't lieing!
don't rush into anything too fast i understand your feelings but if your gonna bang someone make sure you are protected I know your parents prolly tell you the same things but they aren't lieing!
Is it worth the wait?
Ever been in that position that you are pretty sure you are definitely attracted to a person who is too young for you to make a move, yet old enough that in less than a year it won't be bad... the person is 17, i just turned 20. This is not a real question, just sometimes its good to get things out. And this ridiculously open forum is the place that im choosing to do so. maybe someone will be the same. if not, who gives a damn. Thats the fun part about anonymity.
To put more info in the case... not only is the person too young..time will tell if they are-- as i would need them to be--attracted to the same sex as their own. As that would be key. They exhibit all the signs that say yeah he probably..as in he does the things i did when i was that age.
I've known this person for years and years, and since my biggest love and crush is as straight as the straightest thing in the world i've been dealt enough crushing blows that im empty of optimism, and this is just the whims of a dumb idiot on a stupid stupid lost cause.
Has anyone ever been closeted (like me) and honestly had a 'straight friend' that they were definitely convinced was not and somehow some way ended up realizing they were not straight and then yeah, hooked up and had a secret fling or something...if so how the hell did that happen?
ok. im done. This catharsis did very very little actually. Sorry the world lost about 10 seconds to 2 minutes having to deal with it.Is it worth the wait?
My case was pretty similar to yours, about the straight crush. It was the opposite of the hypothetical situation you asked about in the end. I was sending signs of attraction, both emotional and physical, and since they started to be reciprocal, I became bolder and bolder, and my crush still reciprocated, so it grew to the point where I had myself convinced that there existed a good possibility of my feelings being mutual. Then I found out, through an offhand comment thrown around in casual conversation, that it wasn't so, and it could never be so.
About your friend, you should give him some time. It certainly sounds as though it would be worth the wait, if he does turn out to be gay. 17 to 20 is not that big a difference, there's no need to wait a year just for that reason.... but I do understand why you'd want to wait until he figures himself out before implicating a romantic relationship.
I'd be cautious, however, of falling into the same trap I did. If you do decide to wait, bear in mind that you should hold no expectations until you know his orientation. Keep him in mind, but don't make big plans for yourself just yet.
Hopefully the second half of the catharsis will help a little more.
Good luck.Is it worth the wait?
here is the thing. in some states 17 is legal. so find out what your laws are first. if he is straight you can't do much about that. i know that no one can change me into being gay, so it might be impossible for you to turn this guy gay
I was positive that I would NEVER have feelings for a girl, and then my friend told me that she was in love with me. She wrote the most beautiful song about me that made me cry. She doesn't like me anymore and I still have of random love for her. My point is that maybe you need to tell this person how you feel. It really works!!
17 is not too young for you to pursue, and you are not too old for him. Just get close to him, get to know him better, and be affectionate to him.
Hmm, you would want to test the waters to make sure he is not super homophobic. Mention in a random conversation someone gay you know (in ordinary life or a celebrity), and say that you think gay people should be allowed to marry. Notice how he responds.
Hug him hello and/or goodbye, and hold that hug and rest in it, to see how he reacts. Notice if he stares at you or looks at you with a hypnotized gaze. Watch a movie together under a blanket and snuggle up to him. Obviously if he does not like such close touch, you will have to accept he is not yearning for you.
But I think if you are clearly affectionate to him, he will respond if he likes you back.
If you see in his eyes or his touch that he responds, then kiss him on the cheek to see what he does. If he likes that -- make it a kiss on the lips.
3 years is not bad at all my friend. Though you are right in saying that it is weird, think about it. When a 20 year old gets together with a 23 year old people are like ';yeah blah blah blah'; they think nothing of it. Tell them your feelings. like you said you are the older one and when the more mature one tells you their feelings then it just makes the moment. .... SPARK i guesse u culd say lol. Please do it, because if you don't know it might be too late
To put more info in the case... not only is the person too young..time will tell if they are-- as i would need them to be--attracted to the same sex as their own. As that would be key. They exhibit all the signs that say yeah he probably..as in he does the things i did when i was that age.
I've known this person for years and years, and since my biggest love and crush is as straight as the straightest thing in the world i've been dealt enough crushing blows that im empty of optimism, and this is just the whims of a dumb idiot on a stupid stupid lost cause.
Has anyone ever been closeted (like me) and honestly had a 'straight friend' that they were definitely convinced was not and somehow some way ended up realizing they were not straight and then yeah, hooked up and had a secret fling or something...if so how the hell did that happen?
ok. im done. This catharsis did very very little actually. Sorry the world lost about 10 seconds to 2 minutes having to deal with it.Is it worth the wait?
My case was pretty similar to yours, about the straight crush. It was the opposite of the hypothetical situation you asked about in the end. I was sending signs of attraction, both emotional and physical, and since they started to be reciprocal, I became bolder and bolder, and my crush still reciprocated, so it grew to the point where I had myself convinced that there existed a good possibility of my feelings being mutual. Then I found out, through an offhand comment thrown around in casual conversation, that it wasn't so, and it could never be so.
About your friend, you should give him some time. It certainly sounds as though it would be worth the wait, if he does turn out to be gay. 17 to 20 is not that big a difference, there's no need to wait a year just for that reason.... but I do understand why you'd want to wait until he figures himself out before implicating a romantic relationship.
I'd be cautious, however, of falling into the same trap I did. If you do decide to wait, bear in mind that you should hold no expectations until you know his orientation. Keep him in mind, but don't make big plans for yourself just yet.
Hopefully the second half of the catharsis will help a little more.
Good luck.Is it worth the wait?
here is the thing. in some states 17 is legal. so find out what your laws are first. if he is straight you can't do much about that. i know that no one can change me into being gay, so it might be impossible for you to turn this guy gay
I was positive that I would NEVER have feelings for a girl, and then my friend told me that she was in love with me. She wrote the most beautiful song about me that made me cry. She doesn't like me anymore and I still have of random love for her. My point is that maybe you need to tell this person how you feel. It really works!!
17 is not too young for you to pursue, and you are not too old for him. Just get close to him, get to know him better, and be affectionate to him.
Hmm, you would want to test the waters to make sure he is not super homophobic. Mention in a random conversation someone gay you know (in ordinary life or a celebrity), and say that you think gay people should be allowed to marry. Notice how he responds.
Hug him hello and/or goodbye, and hold that hug and rest in it, to see how he reacts. Notice if he stares at you or looks at you with a hypnotized gaze. Watch a movie together under a blanket and snuggle up to him. Obviously if he does not like such close touch, you will have to accept he is not yearning for you.
But I think if you are clearly affectionate to him, he will respond if he likes you back.
If you see in his eyes or his touch that he responds, then kiss him on the cheek to see what he does. If he likes that -- make it a kiss on the lips.
3 years is not bad at all my friend. Though you are right in saying that it is weird, think about it. When a 20 year old gets together with a 23 year old people are like ';yeah blah blah blah'; they think nothing of it. Tell them your feelings. like you said you are the older one and when the more mature one tells you their feelings then it just makes the moment. .... SPARK i guesse u culd say lol. Please do it, because if you don't know it might be too late
Dealing with my crush ahhhh help!!!?
i have a crush on this guy in my french class. he sits on the other side of the room, and i cant get a chance to talk to him, or what to talk about.
ps i have lunch right after french so i was wondering how to ask him out to lunch??
Dealing with my crush ahhhh help!!!?
You should try to get through the door at the same time as him and then drop a textbook or something and if he's alone by you he should probably pick it up for you. that's your chance to get to know him.Dealing with my crush ahhhh help!!!?
I think guys want to make the first move but there's nothing wrong with dropping subtle hints and wanting to spend time with him. Also it wouldn't hurt to give him the impression that if he asked you out you'd say yes.
give him sign
look him, smile.
ps i have lunch right after french so i was wondering how to ask him out to lunch??
Dealing with my crush ahhhh help!!!?
You should try to get through the door at the same time as him and then drop a textbook or something and if he's alone by you he should probably pick it up for you. that's your chance to get to know him.Dealing with my crush ahhhh help!!!?
I think guys want to make the first move but there's nothing wrong with dropping subtle hints and wanting to spend time with him. Also it wouldn't hurt to give him the impression that if he asked you out you'd say yes.
give him sign
look him, smile.
Dealing with my crush?
I have a crush on a close friend and i want to tell him but im worried on his reaction, i want to tell him by email, how should i do this, i have the urge to tell him i cant hold it any longer everyone is telling me to tell himDealing with my crush?
Tell him, but not by E-Mail..Do it face-to-face
Tell him, but not by E-Mail..Do it face-to-face
People who dealed with a crush?
is there any one who was friends with someone and never exoected to later have a crush on them? if so did u tell that person or not. and if someone else who did not exeperience in this way how did u deal with ur crushPeople who dealed with a crush?
well i didnt tell him but i give him lots of hints..so i think he got the clue..thats what you should do if your too scared to tell himPeople who dealed with a crush?
well the whole point of a crush is that ure being expected to be well '; crushed'; so i guess i just deal with it and then let it go....
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yes it was this guy in my social studies class and i would talk to him. Because i was bored and didnt want to do my work .But i knew i didnt like him till i found out he liked me.Then i started liking him but i dont think he likes me back anymore complicated. I didnt tell him though i just try to act normal whyll im around him it helps nothing akward.
well right now i have a crush on my friend who is so cute...when i first met him i didn't like him i thought he was somewhat annoying and teased me at times but he's was just being funny.8 months later we became friends we happened to be in the same class so i see him everyday and talk to him as much as i can. but now i have a big crush on him so yeah um i haven't told him i like him...i'm kinda shy tbu so he probably has no idea
I was in this same situation. I liked my best friend since fifth grade. i never told him because i didn't think he like me back and was afraid of messing up our relationship. But when we got older he finally told me he was crazy about me and wanted to be with me but i couldn't accept because i was in a relationship. but secretly i felt the same. so therefore we never go together. so my advice to you is tell him the worst answer you could get is no. at least you won't regret it as i did.
well i can tell what not to do..........i had a huge crush and thought she was way to beauiful to ask out and i didnt. at least twenty yrs later after i was married , we got to gether on the internet from now is 1400 miles away.......lord when she told me why i never asked her out ........well now you know what having a pit in your belly...............so do something about it and take that chance before its way to late............lord its bad to say but i still love that girl too and cant do anything about it ...........
well i didnt tell him but i give him lots of hints..so i think he got the clue..thats what you should do if your too scared to tell himPeople who dealed with a crush?
well the whole point of a crush is that ure being expected to be well '; crushed'; so i guess i just deal with it and then let it go....
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yes it was this guy in my social studies class and i would talk to him. Because i was bored and didnt want to do my work .But i knew i didnt like him till i found out he liked me.Then i started liking him but i dont think he likes me back anymore complicated. I didnt tell him though i just try to act normal whyll im around him it helps nothing akward.
well right now i have a crush on my friend who is so cute...when i first met him i didn't like him i thought he was somewhat annoying and teased me at times but he's was just being funny.8 months later we became friends we happened to be in the same class so i see him everyday and talk to him as much as i can. but now i have a big crush on him so yeah um i haven't told him i like him...i'm kinda shy tbu so he probably has no idea
I was in this same situation. I liked my best friend since fifth grade. i never told him because i didn't think he like me back and was afraid of messing up our relationship. But when we got older he finally told me he was crazy about me and wanted to be with me but i couldn't accept because i was in a relationship. but secretly i felt the same. so therefore we never go together. so my advice to you is tell him the worst answer you could get is no. at least you won't regret it as i did.
well i can tell what not to do..........i had a huge crush and thought she was way to beauiful to ask out and i didnt. at least twenty yrs later after i was married , we got to gether on the internet from now is 1400 miles away.......lord when she told me why i never asked her out ........well now you know what having a pit in your belly...............so do something about it and take that chance before its way to late............lord its bad to say but i still love that girl too and cant do anything about it ...........
How should i deal with a big crush in middle school?
i think he knows i like him it's just i talk to him much and when i get around him i get really nervous and i need to know if he likes me back because if he doesn't i need to get over him and try to pursue someone else but if he does i need to find a way to start talking to himHow should i deal with a big crush in middle school?
then its simple
just tell him how u feel
and find outHow should i deal with a big crush in middle school?
start conversations about things he likes. P.S. he may like the muffin man!
then its simple
just tell him how u feel
and find outHow should i deal with a big crush in middle school?
start conversations about things he likes. P.S. he may like the muffin man!
How can I deal with having a crush on this strange guy?
Yo! Hey, I met this guy over at the beach a few nights ago and he was really good looking! After a few nights agfterwards he introduced himself and then on another night we had our first date. It went pretty good but it wasn't like you know-perfect! He is so gorgeous and I wanted to know since I like him what I shoould do now that I have the willies whenever I get a thought about him? Also-what can I do so that I can see him again?How can I deal with having a crush on this strange guy?
Tell him you had a good time and would he like to take you out again. You can tell him you were nervous, that is why
that date was not that perfect.
Tell him you had a good time and would he like to take you out again. You can tell him you were nervous, that is why
that date was not that perfect.
How do you deal with a random crush?
So I think this guy in my college class is soooo cute/smart and funny but in a different way. He's not the kind of typical ';hot guy'; so i'm pretty sure he won't hit on me or anything. I think I may be handling it correctly: sitting next to him in class, leaving class at the same time as him and subtly flirting (he once held the door for me and smiled!!!! lol) But seriously, we only have a month of class left, how do i approach him? I need to get to know this guy!!How do you deal with a random crush?
Try not being so full of yourself and maybe you will have more guys like you.grey hair african american hair
Try not being so full of yourself and maybe you will have more guys like you.
How do i deal with my enormous crush on my brother's close friend?
i realized about two months ago that i like one of my older brother's friends. to be specific, i like him more than i have ever liked a guy before, which carries a lot of weight since i have had many great boy friends. i am a sophomore in high school, while he and my brother are sophomores in college. we all hang out a lot because my brother and i are very close and i consider his friends to be my friends.
this boy and i don't text though, while i text nearly all of my brother's other friends, and several have expressed romantic interest for me. i want to talk to my brother about it but whenever i bring it up he gets very irritated and awkward. i need this to go somewhere because i care about this guy a lot, but i don't know how to get it off the ground. please help!
God blessHow do i deal with my enormous crush on my brother's close friend?
are you sure that the guy likes you
yeah and your brother wouldn't be happy about that
but talk to the guy firstHow do i deal with my enormous crush on my brother's close friend?
Well u said u try 2 talk 2 ur brother and it didnt go well try again and if it dont go well u need 2 follow ur heart
this boy and i don't text though, while i text nearly all of my brother's other friends, and several have expressed romantic interest for me. i want to talk to my brother about it but whenever i bring it up he gets very irritated and awkward. i need this to go somewhere because i care about this guy a lot, but i don't know how to get it off the ground. please help!
God blessHow do i deal with my enormous crush on my brother's close friend?
are you sure that the guy likes you
yeah and your brother wouldn't be happy about that
but talk to the guy firstHow do i deal with my enormous crush on my brother's close friend?
Well u said u try 2 talk 2 ur brother and it didnt go well try again and if it dont go well u need 2 follow ur heart
How to deal with a shy crush. What do you guys think?
I mean shes really shy we talk fine on texting on msn i make her laugh and everything although i dnt know in person seems like she always avoids me.... maybe she doesnt like me or shes shy.. idnt know... but like when i show up randomly she like runs to her freind pretending to be want to tell them something important....i know its ';pretending'; because it has happened more than once..
Should i ask her if i could call her or just call .. i always try to give her as much space as possible. and never annoy her. Ex. Talking to her only in the evening.How to deal with a shy crush. What do you guys think?
best way for you to know how she feels about you is by asking her. it sounds like she really likes you and you really like her so whatcha waiting for :)
she may be avoiding you at times because she could be worried that you wont like her in person since you both get along well via texting and msn.
girls like a guy who cares. by you asking her how she feels about things between you two will help work out the confusion your feeling.
hope things work out...How to deal with a shy crush. What do you guys think?
call her
Yeah ask her if you can call her someday. And if she says yes, call her then tell her that you like her :)
You should just call her. girls, no matter what there personality is they always like surprises. Talking to a girl in the evening it a kind of booty call and it helps the girl to like the experience more because she is comfortable and alone. Do not bring up past relationship as a kind of small talk, it never a good idea. Call her. If she answers great, if she doesn't , wait a day and text/email her asking if it was wrong of you. give her 2 days max to answer and then send the same message again with 'im really sorry on the end'. She will get back in touch, trust me!
naww, your relationship/friendship with her seems soo cutee!! she likes u, it proves it on msn, she's just shy and around her friends, she's even more shy about guys. try and ask her to the movies with a few friends and see how it goes. or u can ask her out on msn, since she's shy in real life, but on msn, she seems to get along with u really good. good luck! xoxoxx
wel, it hapns...some gals are quite shy with guys in person......
wel, make her feel comfy, try calling her...
Should i ask her if i could call her or just call .. i always try to give her as much space as possible. and never annoy her. Ex. Talking to her only in the evening.How to deal with a shy crush. What do you guys think?
best way for you to know how she feels about you is by asking her. it sounds like she really likes you and you really like her so whatcha waiting for :)
she may be avoiding you at times because she could be worried that you wont like her in person since you both get along well via texting and msn.
girls like a guy who cares. by you asking her how she feels about things between you two will help work out the confusion your feeling.
hope things work out...How to deal with a shy crush. What do you guys think?
call her
Yeah ask her if you can call her someday. And if she says yes, call her then tell her that you like her :)
You should just call her. girls, no matter what there personality is they always like surprises. Talking to a girl in the evening it a kind of booty call and it helps the girl to like the experience more because she is comfortable and alone. Do not bring up past relationship as a kind of small talk, it never a good idea. Call her. If she answers great, if she doesn't , wait a day and text/email her asking if it was wrong of you. give her 2 days max to answer and then send the same message again with 'im really sorry on the end'. She will get back in touch, trust me!
naww, your relationship/friendship with her seems soo cutee!! she likes u, it proves it on msn, she's just shy and around her friends, she's even more shy about guys. try and ask her to the movies with a few friends and see how it goes. or u can ask her out on msn, since she's shy in real life, but on msn, she seems to get along with u really good. good luck! xoxoxx
wel, it hapns...some gals are quite shy with guys in person......
wel, make her feel comfy, try calling her...
How to deal with a huge crush on a teacher?
Well i have this teacher mr.beverage. he's soooooooooo hot. and he knows i like him (darn friends told him). and i think he likes me to. he's a phys. ed. teacher and whenever we're doing something he's always looking at me. when i hugged him i kinda felt a connection between us. like a spark type of thing. but anywayy i like him a lot. to the point where i will have daydreams in class about him, and making out and such. but at night i will have such a sexual dream about him to the point where i get like mad horny, and i just want to f*ck something. but what should i do? he pays a lot of attention to me which makes me think he likes me ........i think he's around 29 maybe 32 at the oldest, and i'm 13
also when i hugged him, while i was he said ';i know you like me, and i like you too'; which made me kinda happy :] but yet worried...and he also said ';i've seen you with those boyfriends you have, think........they are just boys, i'm a man, i'm what you really want';How to deal with a huge crush on a teacher?
time to wake up from your wet dream now.How to deal with a huge crush on a teacher?
If the girl in that picture is 13 than I am a monkey's uncle.
perv )(*%26amp;^%
also when i hugged him, while i was he said ';i know you like me, and i like you too'; which made me kinda happy :] but yet worried...and he also said ';i've seen you with those boyfriends you have, think........they are just boys, i'm a man, i'm what you really want';How to deal with a huge crush on a teacher?
time to wake up from your wet dream now.How to deal with a huge crush on a teacher?
If the girl in that picture is 13 than I am a monkey's uncle.
perv )(*%26amp;^%
How to deal with an unwanted crush?
Context: High school.
In a twisted, bizarre love quadrangle, a girl who has apparently had feelings for me for several years (whom I've successfully managed to ignore thus far) is now pushing very strongly. I can tell that she wants to go out with me, unfortunately, I can't reciprocate those feelings for her. She's texting me twenty times a day, and wants to know what I'm doing this weekend. I need to know how to stop this, without crushing her emotionally. I really DON'T want to hurt her by saying no when she inevitably asks the big question. What should I do?How to deal with an unwanted crush?
Tell her that she's a good ';friend';, if she is. Other than that, don't respond to her at all. She sounds like a stalker.
In a twisted, bizarre love quadrangle, a girl who has apparently had feelings for me for several years (whom I've successfully managed to ignore thus far) is now pushing very strongly. I can tell that she wants to go out with me, unfortunately, I can't reciprocate those feelings for her. She's texting me twenty times a day, and wants to know what I'm doing this weekend. I need to know how to stop this, without crushing her emotionally. I really DON'T want to hurt her by saying no when she inevitably asks the big question. What should I do?How to deal with an unwanted crush?
Tell her that she's a good ';friend';, if she is. Other than that, don't respond to her at all. She sounds like a stalker.
How to deal with student crushes?
i've recently started teaching, i take drama classes at high school
im in my early 20s and my students are in their late teens. recently i noticed that one of them, who is other wise a good student, would be staring at me. i caught him doing that so many times but when he talks he argues over petty things. the other day when i told him to improve his behaviour, he just got down on his knees and said im sorry and then said (more to himself) 'looks as if im proposing to you' and another time, i was asking them about a certain character and was discussing who would look the best (girl) and he said 'you're the only pretty person around here' i just ignored that comment then.
now i am trying my best to ignore him but i feel that if i do he might become all obnoxious as he is already famous as a careless student and i only pay extra attention to him because i think he just needs attention as he is already improving. but i need to ensure that his little crush doesn't turn into something big. please tell me how to deal with it?How to deal with student crushes?
Its normal. I have teenagers and they and their friends (1 boy, 1 girl) once in awhile talk about a hot teacher. Keep a sense of humor and just ignore his behavior. If he becomes obnoxious then treat it as though he were being abnoxious w/o the crush. He needs female attention (lacking a mom?) so be firm with him. DONT let him see you as frazzeled cause he will feel successful and keep it up. How to deal with student crushes?
how could it turn into something big?
all guys fancy their teachers
act like the adultgrey hair african american hair
im in my early 20s and my students are in their late teens. recently i noticed that one of them, who is other wise a good student, would be staring at me. i caught him doing that so many times but when he talks he argues over petty things. the other day when i told him to improve his behaviour, he just got down on his knees and said im sorry and then said (more to himself) 'looks as if im proposing to you' and another time, i was asking them about a certain character and was discussing who would look the best (girl) and he said 'you're the only pretty person around here' i just ignored that comment then.
now i am trying my best to ignore him but i feel that if i do he might become all obnoxious as he is already famous as a careless student and i only pay extra attention to him because i think he just needs attention as he is already improving. but i need to ensure that his little crush doesn't turn into something big. please tell me how to deal with it?How to deal with student crushes?
Its normal. I have teenagers and they and their friends (1 boy, 1 girl) once in awhile talk about a hot teacher. Keep a sense of humor and just ignore his behavior. If he becomes obnoxious then treat it as though he were being abnoxious w/o the crush. He needs female attention (lacking a mom?) so be firm with him. DONT let him see you as frazzeled cause he will feel successful and keep it up. How to deal with student crushes?
how could it turn into something big?
all guys fancy their teachers
act like the adult
How do people deal with cyber crushes, curiousities and fascinations?
this Yahoo world and the people in it are like a safe interactive video game but i notice small cyber crushes, curiousities and fascinations and favourites occuring .....
Are they of a low level fleeting value or do youplace more value on them?
How do you engage with your little soon to vanish cyber crushes, curiousities and fascinations and favourites?
Question stalking? e-mailing? IMing?How do people deal with cyber crushes, curiousities and fascinations?
Good question. I'm sure it happens a lot. I think most people don't believe the other person to be a REAL person so it's easier to carry on flirting etc that they wont do in real life. I personally take it all as fun on a very light level.How do people deal with cyber crushes, curiousities and fascinations?
the internet sucks when it comes to relationships. dont take it too serious
I've never had a cyber crush :(
Cyber crush? Well, I would imagine you'd want to refrain from taking your Internet relations too seriously, especially if you're prone to this kind of behaviour.
Well it's not something to be taken seriously.. just don't give out personal information, and you will be fine.. A crush is just a little thing, when you admire a person or something like that, it's not love.. vanishing cyber crushes just vanish, and you will probably get a new one, and it will vanish again.
I think we all have talk to one person or another on the internet...Rather it was just chit chat, deep into conversation, or cybering....I dont think it is necessarily a crush but more like a fantasy or just a regular friendship...
Cybersex is the safest sex you can have. it's fun, exciting, anonymous, and harmless. Great way to get yourself off.
My boyfriend and I won't let each other have any cyber flings. We stay together and don't fight that way.
If you are single, all the power to you! Its nice to be able to talk to someone, even if its just flirting. If someone is stalking you, change your email address and name. You can also mark their address as spam so it goes into your Junk or Bulk folder.
Just be smart and don't give out any personal info like your address, phone # and your last name.
Are they of a low level fleeting value or do youplace more value on them?
How do you engage with your little soon to vanish cyber crushes, curiousities and fascinations and favourites?
Question stalking? e-mailing? IMing?How do people deal with cyber crushes, curiousities and fascinations?
Good question. I'm sure it happens a lot. I think most people don't believe the other person to be a REAL person so it's easier to carry on flirting etc that they wont do in real life. I personally take it all as fun on a very light level.How do people deal with cyber crushes, curiousities and fascinations?
the internet sucks when it comes to relationships. dont take it too serious
I've never had a cyber crush :(
Cyber crush? Well, I would imagine you'd want to refrain from taking your Internet relations too seriously, especially if you're prone to this kind of behaviour.
Well it's not something to be taken seriously.. just don't give out personal information, and you will be fine.. A crush is just a little thing, when you admire a person or something like that, it's not love.. vanishing cyber crushes just vanish, and you will probably get a new one, and it will vanish again.
I think we all have talk to one person or another on the internet...Rather it was just chit chat, deep into conversation, or cybering....I dont think it is necessarily a crush but more like a fantasy or just a regular friendship...
Cybersex is the safest sex you can have. it's fun, exciting, anonymous, and harmless. Great way to get yourself off.
My boyfriend and I won't let each other have any cyber flings. We stay together and don't fight that way.
If you are single, all the power to you! Its nice to be able to talk to someone, even if its just flirting. If someone is stalking you, change your email address and name. You can also mark their address as spam so it goes into your Junk or Bulk folder.
Just be smart and don't give out any personal info like your address, phone # and your last name.
How to deal with a non-reciprocal crush?
Hello everyone,
Just earlier today, I received an email from a girl I know. She stated that she has a crush on me, that she likes me, etc. She already knows, somehow, that I don麓t return her feelings.
So my question is this: how should I respond to her email? I want to respond in the nicest way possible, I don't want to hurt her feelings any more then they probably already are.
I have searched through the internet and have found a lot from the perspective of the person who has the crush, but virtually nothing from my perspective.
Any ideas? Any help would be greatly appreciated.How to deal with a non-reciprocal crush?
I'm flattered that you like me in that way. And I think you're a pretty cool person, but I don't feel the same way. We can still hang out and talk and stuff, but let's just keep it at that. I really like you as a person, and I think you'll find the right guy, it's just not me.How to deal with a non-reciprocal crush?
Be honest with her the hurt is less painful , as it will not leave her wondering and she'll have to except it
Hmmm...this is interesting. Well...tell her the truth in a beneficial way. Be nice about it. Every truth isn't told in a good way. Some people tell the truth to hurt people. She is already emotionally weak because you don't return her feelings, but you have to let her know that you aren't the guy whom she needs to have her eyes set upon. Just think about what you are going to say to her and how it is going to affect her before you tell her anything.
Tell her this: You are a cool person but, i like you as a friend.I don't want to hurt your feelings, because i respect you as the wonderful person you are.Plus i am a very honest person, and i believe in sincerity above all things.And because i respect you , i am being upfront, i just don't see you that way.
If you know her and met her in person, the internet is not the way to say it!!! Meet up with her at a place you always see each other and walk up to her, look her in the eyes, and say what your heart is telling you. ';you are the nicest person, but i just don't feel a connection....AT THIS POINT IN TIME. Maybe someday i will start to like you, but for right now, i think you would be an awesomo friend.'; try that on for size!!
No matter what you say, she's going to feel hurt. But if you say the right words, it could help her to feel less hurt and move on. I mean, Im sure she has already considered there is a chance you may not return the feelings. The best thing you can say is just honestly tell her you dont feel for her the same way she does, and its hard for you to tell her this because you respect her, but you want to be honest instead of leading her on. If your honest but at the same time, down to earth and polite about the whole situation, that would help alot...good luck!
You didn't say an age but lately there are young girls expressing the latest rage in relationships---the crush. It means something different to each person. All she is saying is she likes you---well if you aren't at a stage in life where you are looking for a girl, simply say that you appreciate the interest but at this time you are not looking for a girlfriend. Guys and girls are different emotionally---girls want that security and acceoptance having a boyfriend brings. Guys want food, loud cars---skateboards---not gooey love---so you and her are on different wavelengths. You won't hurt her feelings--and you owe her nothing. Realx, smile and good luck
Just earlier today, I received an email from a girl I know. She stated that she has a crush on me, that she likes me, etc. She already knows, somehow, that I don麓t return her feelings.
So my question is this: how should I respond to her email? I want to respond in the nicest way possible, I don't want to hurt her feelings any more then they probably already are.
I have searched through the internet and have found a lot from the perspective of the person who has the crush, but virtually nothing from my perspective.
Any ideas? Any help would be greatly appreciated.How to deal with a non-reciprocal crush?
I'm flattered that you like me in that way. And I think you're a pretty cool person, but I don't feel the same way. We can still hang out and talk and stuff, but let's just keep it at that. I really like you as a person, and I think you'll find the right guy, it's just not me.How to deal with a non-reciprocal crush?
Be honest with her the hurt is less painful , as it will not leave her wondering and she'll have to except it
Hmmm...this is interesting. Well...tell her the truth in a beneficial way. Be nice about it. Every truth isn't told in a good way. Some people tell the truth to hurt people. She is already emotionally weak because you don't return her feelings, but you have to let her know that you aren't the guy whom she needs to have her eyes set upon. Just think about what you are going to say to her and how it is going to affect her before you tell her anything.
Tell her this: You are a cool person but, i like you as a friend.I don't want to hurt your feelings, because i respect you as the wonderful person you are.Plus i am a very honest person, and i believe in sincerity above all things.And because i respect you , i am being upfront, i just don't see you that way.
If you know her and met her in person, the internet is not the way to say it!!! Meet up with her at a place you always see each other and walk up to her, look her in the eyes, and say what your heart is telling you. ';you are the nicest person, but i just don't feel a connection....AT THIS POINT IN TIME. Maybe someday i will start to like you, but for right now, i think you would be an awesomo friend.'; try that on for size!!
No matter what you say, she's going to feel hurt. But if you say the right words, it could help her to feel less hurt and move on. I mean, Im sure she has already considered there is a chance you may not return the feelings. The best thing you can say is just honestly tell her you dont feel for her the same way she does, and its hard for you to tell her this because you respect her, but you want to be honest instead of leading her on. If your honest but at the same time, down to earth and polite about the whole situation, that would help alot...good luck!
You didn't say an age but lately there are young girls expressing the latest rage in relationships---the crush. It means something different to each person. All she is saying is she likes you---well if you aren't at a stage in life where you are looking for a girl, simply say that you appreciate the interest but at this time you are not looking for a girlfriend. Guys and girls are different emotionally---girls want that security and acceoptance having a boyfriend brings. Guys want food, loud cars---skateboards---not gooey love---so you and her are on different wavelengths. You won't hurt her feelings--and you owe her nothing. Realx, smile and good luck
How to deal with shyness when talking to your crush?
I have a crush...but im shy to talk to him in person....
What do I do?
Im scared of saying something stupid
and im most scared of it being awkward and having NOTHING to talk about!How to deal with shyness when talking to your crush?
do what i do, before walkign up to him tell yourself ';What the hell, i have nothing to loose.'; Go for it and be yourself, because if to him being yourself is stupid because of something you've said, you can't hide that forever.How to deal with shyness when talking to your crush?
Don't be worried about saying something stupid, because if you keep on thinking about what you're gonna say, it ends up sounding stupid! trust me, when you get to spend some time together and find your common interests, you can both talk about something that you're both interested in, and then you're not shy anymore. It's just a matter of time... why don't you just relax when you're around him? consider him a normal friend of yours, and then it's easier to talk to him without being too shy!
Well what I always do to talk to my crush(well now he's my boyfriend), I always asked him a question about math and then he would tell or whatever then I would bring something else up and just keep talking to him. But if it ever begins to feel awkward, tell him you should probably get going and tell him you'll talk to him later. That always worked for me, so maybe you should try it. Hope this helped!
dont listen to the answers about texting him.
texting is not a good idea, because there is no way to tell how they are really feeling when you are talking to him.
just go up to him and start a conversation, get a little flirty like say how cute he looked that day or something. ANYTHING.
you have nothing to lose, and if you didnt talk to him, then you would miss out.
go for it
-ash
just talk to him like to talk with ur guy friends
whisper to urself ';it's not the end of the world this is a cute guy what's the fuss for?';
once ur confident in urself u wont be intimidated to talk to him but if u let ur shyness get the best of you then you'll shy him away u have to be strong ur not stupid! =]
Sh sh sh. No, don't talk. Just walk up to him and drop to your knees. Take him fully into your mouth. That's right, just a little suction. Not to fast. Watch the teeth.
Okay, now stand up and turn around. Slowly drop your pants, but leave your panties on. Just pull them to the side a little. Let him enter you from behind.
The relationship will just take off naturally from there.
just say, '; hows it going?'; or ';Hi'; and it will start something up....he will start talking and words will come to you once it gets going....but you have to say something or he wont notice you...my friends were together and the girl DID NOT SAY ANYthINg.....if she saw the guy she would go into a secluded state and cling to her friends...
being shy around them just goes to show that you like them.. being stupid to them is normal.. you cant get around it. and when you do your going to feel bad but just keep doing it and it will the eventually stop the feeling of being shy
it is natural to be shy! and its kind of cute! and he will find out that you like him and he will like you too! its a law you like someone more if you know they like you!
Just go to him and make up something happening right now and it would turn into a sweet conversation for hours
just be urself around him . if yu just act like urself there wont be any awkward silence .
Do some thing or tell him some thing which actually means that u like him.
What's the worst thing that could happen if you talked to him?
It's worth a shot and you know it.
I just acknowledge the fact that I AM going to say something stupid. It actually takes a lot of pressure off.
text him or call him
have some liquid courage
write em a note
text him
What do I do?
Im scared of saying something stupid
and im most scared of it being awkward and having NOTHING to talk about!How to deal with shyness when talking to your crush?
do what i do, before walkign up to him tell yourself ';What the hell, i have nothing to loose.'; Go for it and be yourself, because if to him being yourself is stupid because of something you've said, you can't hide that forever.How to deal with shyness when talking to your crush?
Don't be worried about saying something stupid, because if you keep on thinking about what you're gonna say, it ends up sounding stupid! trust me, when you get to spend some time together and find your common interests, you can both talk about something that you're both interested in, and then you're not shy anymore. It's just a matter of time... why don't you just relax when you're around him? consider him a normal friend of yours, and then it's easier to talk to him without being too shy!
Well what I always do to talk to my crush(well now he's my boyfriend), I always asked him a question about math and then he would tell or whatever then I would bring something else up and just keep talking to him. But if it ever begins to feel awkward, tell him you should probably get going and tell him you'll talk to him later. That always worked for me, so maybe you should try it. Hope this helped!
dont listen to the answers about texting him.
texting is not a good idea, because there is no way to tell how they are really feeling when you are talking to him.
just go up to him and start a conversation, get a little flirty like say how cute he looked that day or something. ANYTHING.
you have nothing to lose, and if you didnt talk to him, then you would miss out.
go for it
-ash
just talk to him like to talk with ur guy friends
whisper to urself ';it's not the end of the world this is a cute guy what's the fuss for?';
once ur confident in urself u wont be intimidated to talk to him but if u let ur shyness get the best of you then you'll shy him away u have to be strong ur not stupid! =]
Sh sh sh. No, don't talk. Just walk up to him and drop to your knees. Take him fully into your mouth. That's right, just a little suction. Not to fast. Watch the teeth.
Okay, now stand up and turn around. Slowly drop your pants, but leave your panties on. Just pull them to the side a little. Let him enter you from behind.
The relationship will just take off naturally from there.
just say, '; hows it going?'; or ';Hi'; and it will start something up....he will start talking and words will come to you once it gets going....but you have to say something or he wont notice you...my friends were together and the girl DID NOT SAY ANYthINg.....if she saw the guy she would go into a secluded state and cling to her friends...
being shy around them just goes to show that you like them.. being stupid to them is normal.. you cant get around it. and when you do your going to feel bad but just keep doing it and it will the eventually stop the feeling of being shy
it is natural to be shy! and its kind of cute! and he will find out that you like him and he will like you too! its a law you like someone more if you know they like you!
Just go to him and make up something happening right now and it would turn into a sweet conversation for hours
just be urself around him . if yu just act like urself there wont be any awkward silence .
Do some thing or tell him some thing which actually means that u like him.
What's the worst thing that could happen if you talked to him?
It's worth a shot and you know it.
I just acknowledge the fact that I AM going to say something stupid. It actually takes a lot of pressure off.
text him or call him
have some liquid courage
write em a note
text him
How do i deal with a snobbish crush?????
Plz ppl... i really have to bring him down... He's way too proud n thinks i m crazy about him...How do i deal with a snobbish crush?????
You need to talk to him, I think. Explain to him that you like him. And if he acts snobby, say, I like you, but I don't like how you act. You make me feel like you think I'm infererior to you. And that hurts my feelings/ makes me feel bad. That should make him aware his snobby ways and hopefully try to overcome them. Good luck and God Bless. :)How do i deal with a snobbish crush?????
I'd say you should ignore him completelly.. even if it is hard.. that is what the most guys can't handle :). And if he asks you, or something, just make fun of him all the time, act very indifferent. That will bring him down!
give him a chance to maintain his dignity, talk to him privately and lay it out for him. tell him how you feel and dont be afraid to hurt his feelings, some people wont' listen otherwise.
if after that he continues to be the same , than humiliate him publicly in front of peers when he's acting like a jerk, that'll definately put him in his place, and you wont' have to feel guilty about humiliating him, cause you gave a chance to save face..
good luck
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Well why not just leave it at that. If he doesn't get attention from you, he will himself come down to earth without you wasting your own energy.
Lady! the best thing to do is ignoring him.Get him out of your mind and if possible sight .............from my personal experience ,thats the best medicine.
Ignore him!
You need to talk to him, I think. Explain to him that you like him. And if he acts snobby, say, I like you, but I don't like how you act. You make me feel like you think I'm infererior to you. And that hurts my feelings/ makes me feel bad. That should make him aware his snobby ways and hopefully try to overcome them. Good luck and God Bless. :)How do i deal with a snobbish crush?????
I'd say you should ignore him completelly.. even if it is hard.. that is what the most guys can't handle :). And if he asks you, or something, just make fun of him all the time, act very indifferent. That will bring him down!
give him a chance to maintain his dignity, talk to him privately and lay it out for him. tell him how you feel and dont be afraid to hurt his feelings, some people wont' listen otherwise.
if after that he continues to be the same , than humiliate him publicly in front of peers when he's acting like a jerk, that'll definately put him in his place, and you wont' have to feel guilty about humiliating him, cause you gave a chance to save face..
good luck
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Well why not just leave it at that. If he doesn't get attention from you, he will himself come down to earth without you wasting your own energy.
Lady! the best thing to do is ignoring him.Get him out of your mind and if possible sight .............from my personal experience ,thats the best medicine.
Ignore him!
How do I deal with a homosexual crush?
I'm a 15 year old guy who has a crush on a boy who's a little younger than me, and I can't tell if he likes me back, or how he likes if he does. He approaches me on his own when he sees me, but goes on talking about how when I mention things about him I鈥檓 a 鈥檚talker鈥?because I remember things he says. I sometimes say he acts immature, as a joke, and he then comes up to me and tries to have conversations with me, then checking to see if I think he鈥檚 matured. He also bumps into me some, but doesn鈥檛 maintain good eye contact when we鈥檙e speaking. He also likes to tell me things via other sources, like he tells me how his 鈥榝riends at school鈥?saw a certain movie or his 鈥榖uddy鈥?told him to ask me a question, and rarely asks me things directly. He also has this tendancy to start to ask me something when we鈥檙e alone, and ends up asking a kind of stupid question and it seems like he鈥檚 covering it up to avoid asking. Does he like me? Should I ask him?How do I deal with a homosexual crush?
Age 15 hitting on a 14 year old for a homosexual relationship is wrong. You need to just keep your sexual preference to yourself for right now. Don't approach him for anything other than friendship. Wait until you are a Senior or in College to come out of the closet. It works much better that way.How do I deal with a homosexual crush?
If he is mature enough to talk about it without going and blabbing to everybody else, then talk to him. But be careful, because it could be a disaster. You may have better luck if you try to talk about it jokingly. Good luck!
well first, do you know if he IS gay? You should ask him first and THEN ask him if he is interested
Well around your age some people might not me quite sure about their sexual preference. So he may not be gay or maybe he is confused or he just might be gay. I would say just get to know him more and eventually maybe he will come out to you. That way if he is not gay you won't freak him or ruin a friendship.
Sorry, no experience in that dept. (^^,)
Age 15 hitting on a 14 year old for a homosexual relationship is wrong. You need to just keep your sexual preference to yourself for right now. Don't approach him for anything other than friendship. Wait until you are a Senior or in College to come out of the closet. It works much better that way.How do I deal with a homosexual crush?
If he is mature enough to talk about it without going and blabbing to everybody else, then talk to him. But be careful, because it could be a disaster. You may have better luck if you try to talk about it jokingly. Good luck!
well first, do you know if he IS gay? You should ask him first and THEN ask him if he is interested
Well around your age some people might not me quite sure about their sexual preference. So he may not be gay or maybe he is confused or he just might be gay. I would say just get to know him more and eventually maybe he will come out to you. That way if he is not gay you won't freak him or ruin a friendship.
Sorry, no experience in that dept. (^^,)
How can I deal with this ex-crush of mine? (Juicy...ah, who am i kidding.)?
So...I'm 19, and apparently a bit of an idiot when it comes to guys. Had a crush on a guy at the start of this year, for no apparent reason. He turned out to be both uninterested and an uninteresting jerk and i came to terms with this, and managed to sort of get over him. It helped that I stopped seeing him.
However, he works at a local store which i shop at often. And although i don't think of him as a potential date anymore whenever i see him i embarrass myself completely in that I:
-go bright red -am unable to make eye contact -make a fool of myself.
It seems i'm struggling to talk to him, as acquaintances should. I'm sick of worrying everytime i go shopping that he will be on his shift, or going to another shop instead.
Please help me figure out how I can talk to this guy without being so damn embarrassed and insecure. Surely someone else has been through this pain...How can I deal with this ex-crush of mine? (Juicy...ah, who am i kidding.)?
You're just not quite over things yet I think. Your feelings, while fading, have not faded completely.
You need a break from him, so you can grow out of the experience. Do your shopping elsewhere for a while, and then later on.....go back. Walk past....smile....say hello, and keep walking.
There's no rule that says you need an interaction every time you go in there.How can I deal with this ex-crush of mine? (Juicy...ah, who am i kidding.)?
New environments can make all the difference! Break the pattern...shake things up!
:)
i told you exactly the same thing, duh !
Uhmm, if I were you I would go to another shop instead. It seems that you still have a crush on him, don't worry when you get to meet a hotter and nice dude you'll get over the jerk. xgrey hair african american hair
However, he works at a local store which i shop at often. And although i don't think of him as a potential date anymore whenever i see him i embarrass myself completely in that I:
-go bright red -am unable to make eye contact -make a fool of myself.
It seems i'm struggling to talk to him, as acquaintances should. I'm sick of worrying everytime i go shopping that he will be on his shift, or going to another shop instead.
Please help me figure out how I can talk to this guy without being so damn embarrassed and insecure. Surely someone else has been through this pain...How can I deal with this ex-crush of mine? (Juicy...ah, who am i kidding.)?
You're just not quite over things yet I think. Your feelings, while fading, have not faded completely.
You need a break from him, so you can grow out of the experience. Do your shopping elsewhere for a while, and then later on.....go back. Walk past....smile....say hello, and keep walking.
There's no rule that says you need an interaction every time you go in there.How can I deal with this ex-crush of mine? (Juicy...ah, who am i kidding.)?
New environments can make all the difference! Break the pattern...shake things up!
:)
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Uhmm, if I were you I would go to another shop instead. It seems that you still have a crush on him, don't worry when you get to meet a hotter and nice dude you'll get over the jerk. x
How do you deal with an unrequited crush?
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I see this lady on the train nearly each day and i have developed a strong crush on her. I think about her a lot and it bugs me. The pathetic thing is its been like this for the last 4 months. I know i can be shy when meeting new women and the packed train doesnt help, but i need to do something.
Was thinking about asking her out for Valentines and then i would know for sure and could accept whatever she says
In the 4 months though, we have not got beyond a hi which is awful
I think i need to concentrate on other women on the train!How do you deal with an unrequited crush?
Deal with it the traditional way '; Join the French Foreign Legion ';How do you deal with an unrequited crush?
Your crush is unrequited only because you haven't asked her. You can never know for sure if she will accept your invitation until you ask her. The worst thing that can happen is that she will say no. If she does, move on to somebody else. Work on having some confidence.
Haha aww how cute!
I asked a similar question the other day, because I believe I'm getting a crush on this guy in my art class, when all it will do is depress me, like crushes usually do!!!
I didn't get much helpful advice.
The best advice I got was to just to ';accept that you like him and then eventually you can move on';.
The problem is, I see him almost every day!
Plus, that wouldn't really help you either.
I also got ';find someone else to obsess over';
I don't really think there's much you can do about it! I'm sorry, you'll just have to try and ignore it maybe, or go out with someone else...
OR JUST TRY AND TALK TO HER ABOUT SOMETHING!!! ANYTHING!
That way, the days shall pass and you will become closer friends.
Friends first, then ask her out.
Good luck!!!
I see this lady on the train nearly each day and i have developed a strong crush on her. I think about her a lot and it bugs me. The pathetic thing is its been like this for the last 4 months. I know i can be shy when meeting new women and the packed train doesnt help, but i need to do something.
Was thinking about asking her out for Valentines and then i would know for sure and could accept whatever she says
In the 4 months though, we have not got beyond a hi which is awful
I think i need to concentrate on other women on the train!How do you deal with an unrequited crush?
Deal with it the traditional way '; Join the French Foreign Legion ';How do you deal with an unrequited crush?
Your crush is unrequited only because you haven't asked her. You can never know for sure if she will accept your invitation until you ask her. The worst thing that can happen is that she will say no. If she does, move on to somebody else. Work on having some confidence.
Haha aww how cute!
I asked a similar question the other day, because I believe I'm getting a crush on this guy in my art class, when all it will do is depress me, like crushes usually do!!!
I didn't get much helpful advice.
The best advice I got was to just to ';accept that you like him and then eventually you can move on';.
The problem is, I see him almost every day!
Plus, that wouldn't really help you either.
I also got ';find someone else to obsess over';
I don't really think there's much you can do about it! I'm sorry, you'll just have to try and ignore it maybe, or go out with someone else...
OR JUST TRY AND TALK TO HER ABOUT SOMETHING!!! ANYTHING!
That way, the days shall pass and you will become closer friends.
Friends first, then ask her out.
Good luck!!!
LGBT: How do I deal with my obsessive crush?
I think it's fair to say that my crush on my friend of a few months has become a bit obsessive where I can't stop thinking about him, try to rearrange my routes at school to bump into him, try to learn a lot about him and his school timetable, and to be honest I'm starting to creep myself out if I haven't already creeped him out.
But he really has been giving me way too much hints he likes me back, like loads. But at the end of the day, I can't decide whether he's really got something for me, or if he really is just super-outgoing and is messing around like he messes around with his other friends. Sometimes I feel he only made friends with me because I'm really shy, and there was only like 6 boys including me and him in our PE class, and I perhaps was an easy target so he'd have a friend in that class. But the friendship always seems genuine. Apart from this week. When I had a dream he was ignoring me in school, and typically apart from a very suggestive (though perhaps joking) licking of the lips and rolling his eyes over me as if he was checking me out on Wednesday morning when we passed, it seems as though he has been ignoring me. He didn't say anything to me in the one class we're in on Wednesday, and then today in PE he talked to me for a bit before, and then pretended he had defriended me and had replaced me with (dare I say it), one of the other geeks in the class as his ';PE friend';. I knew he was just joking, but it did hurt me a little. I asked him if he was coming in to school tommorow on the last day of term, but he says he can't be bothered. I tried to convince him to come, but I don't think he changed his mind and I probably came over as even more of a creep. So now I won't see him until the new year, and I literally cannot stop thinking about him, and I really don't want to have to be sad all day tommorow and for most of the Christmas holidays.
So how do I stop thinking about him as much? Or make my crush a little less obsessive. It's really stressing me out, yet I've fallen for him real bad, and really don't want to stop liking him in this way, I just want to stop thinking and worrying about him as much, so I don't feel sad during the holidays, and also when we go back I don't continue acting even more of a creep towards him. Because he must be blind if he hasn't realized I fancy him since he knows I'm gay. =\ (I get the vibes from him though, and I can't help think he's a closet case).LGBT: How do I deal with my obsessive crush?
To be frank, you don't seem like a creep at all. The information you've provided seems to indicate that you have a very typical, normal crush on this person.
I do however think that in order to be both mature and give off a good impression, you should avoid throwing yourself out there for him.Blindly throwing yourself out to see if he'll ';take the offer'; only gives off the impression that you're insecure and that you're too dependent on others.
Continue to talk to him if you can, offer to take him out to the movies sometime. But don't act desperate, keep your composure and be rational about your feelings( in other words, is your crush on him really worth it? Is he a nice guy or is too immature?)LGBT: How do I deal with my obsessive crush?
I'm sorry but you need to tell him. If he says yes it will feel so ggod, but we all have to deal with rejection in our lives. Let me know how it goes, ok? x x x
Oh man I'm in a similar situation. I have a crush on this guy from school. Unfortunately, I'm probably never going to see him again. And I did the same thing. I tried learning as much about him and I even felt weird. I felt like a stalker. At least you'll still see him after winter break. Not only that, he is your friend unlike me I never got the chance to become friends with this guy.
But the best things to get your mind off of him is to keep yourself occupied. I know it's hard but it helps a little, but you're still gonna see him after winter break so don't feel that sad ok.
hell, ask him out or something . get it over with. if he rejects you at least you wont be torturing yourself anymore . don't put his back against the wall, just ask him if he knows that you really like him or something . bring it up casually , don't be too intense about it .
I have been in this situation tons of times excluding the fact that the person 'liked' me back.
Anyway point being- i know it does not seem like it now but you will forget about this lad really because i did with my crushes and now im thinking like what the hell was i doing being so obsessed, although tbh i am a very obsessive person.
Anyway- eventually maybe when you leave school you will probably find someone that you really do love and that is way different to a crush; when you do find someone that you love you will know the difference :)
Hope this helps somewhat- try and do other things to help your mind get off him.
He has not been talking to you because you are too easy, and because you are thinking about him too much. I really think that you are not ready for this. Therefore, you need to stop obsessing about him. You need to find things to do. And you need to forget him. You are not ready for this. It is ok, that in the hectic life that we live sometimes we might feel something for someone. But it is not ok to make everything in our life centered on someone. This is what is driving him away from you. Just live your hectic life. And recognize it for what it is. An obsessive thought.
But he really has been giving me way too much hints he likes me back, like loads. But at the end of the day, I can't decide whether he's really got something for me, or if he really is just super-outgoing and is messing around like he messes around with his other friends. Sometimes I feel he only made friends with me because I'm really shy, and there was only like 6 boys including me and him in our PE class, and I perhaps was an easy target so he'd have a friend in that class. But the friendship always seems genuine. Apart from this week. When I had a dream he was ignoring me in school, and typically apart from a very suggestive (though perhaps joking) licking of the lips and rolling his eyes over me as if he was checking me out on Wednesday morning when we passed, it seems as though he has been ignoring me. He didn't say anything to me in the one class we're in on Wednesday, and then today in PE he talked to me for a bit before, and then pretended he had defriended me and had replaced me with (dare I say it), one of the other geeks in the class as his ';PE friend';. I knew he was just joking, but it did hurt me a little. I asked him if he was coming in to school tommorow on the last day of term, but he says he can't be bothered. I tried to convince him to come, but I don't think he changed his mind and I probably came over as even more of a creep. So now I won't see him until the new year, and I literally cannot stop thinking about him, and I really don't want to have to be sad all day tommorow and for most of the Christmas holidays.
So how do I stop thinking about him as much? Or make my crush a little less obsessive. It's really stressing me out, yet I've fallen for him real bad, and really don't want to stop liking him in this way, I just want to stop thinking and worrying about him as much, so I don't feel sad during the holidays, and also when we go back I don't continue acting even more of a creep towards him. Because he must be blind if he hasn't realized I fancy him since he knows I'm gay. =\ (I get the vibes from him though, and I can't help think he's a closet case).LGBT: How do I deal with my obsessive crush?
To be frank, you don't seem like a creep at all. The information you've provided seems to indicate that you have a very typical, normal crush on this person.
I do however think that in order to be both mature and give off a good impression, you should avoid throwing yourself out there for him.Blindly throwing yourself out to see if he'll ';take the offer'; only gives off the impression that you're insecure and that you're too dependent on others.
Continue to talk to him if you can, offer to take him out to the movies sometime. But don't act desperate, keep your composure and be rational about your feelings( in other words, is your crush on him really worth it? Is he a nice guy or is too immature?)LGBT: How do I deal with my obsessive crush?
I'm sorry but you need to tell him. If he says yes it will feel so ggod, but we all have to deal with rejection in our lives. Let me know how it goes, ok? x x x
Oh man I'm in a similar situation. I have a crush on this guy from school. Unfortunately, I'm probably never going to see him again. And I did the same thing. I tried learning as much about him and I even felt weird. I felt like a stalker. At least you'll still see him after winter break. Not only that, he is your friend unlike me I never got the chance to become friends with this guy.
But the best things to get your mind off of him is to keep yourself occupied. I know it's hard but it helps a little, but you're still gonna see him after winter break so don't feel that sad ok.
hell, ask him out or something . get it over with. if he rejects you at least you wont be torturing yourself anymore . don't put his back against the wall, just ask him if he knows that you really like him or something . bring it up casually , don't be too intense about it .
I have been in this situation tons of times excluding the fact that the person 'liked' me back.
Anyway point being- i know it does not seem like it now but you will forget about this lad really because i did with my crushes and now im thinking like what the hell was i doing being so obsessed, although tbh i am a very obsessive person.
Anyway- eventually maybe when you leave school you will probably find someone that you really do love and that is way different to a crush; when you do find someone that you love you will know the difference :)
Hope this helps somewhat- try and do other things to help your mind get off him.
He has not been talking to you because you are too easy, and because you are thinking about him too much. I really think that you are not ready for this. Therefore, you need to stop obsessing about him. You need to find things to do. And you need to forget him. You are not ready for this. It is ok, that in the hectic life that we live sometimes we might feel something for someone. But it is not ok to make everything in our life centered on someone. This is what is driving him away from you. Just live your hectic life. And recognize it for what it is. An obsessive thought.
How to deal with an obsessive crush?
I have an obsessive crush on someone I can never get
I stare at her picture all the time (though recently I've been able to control this a bit)
I think about her all the time 24/7. Though when I do some activities I enjoy, they leave my mind for a while, but then come back again.
I have fantasies about her
I keep thinking she don't like me or think I'm weird, which pains me so much.
If I was still in school, I would probably go out of my way just to see them.
I feel so envious of their boyfriend. I keep wishing I was them. And, as wrong as this sounds, I wish her boyfriend would die. If that sounds sick and wrong I agree. I'm ashamed.
Does anyone have any helpful tips in getting over this? If you think I WANT to feel this way, you're dead wrong.How to deal with an obsessive crush?
I feel the same for a girl right now, she doesn't have a bf right now so im making my move soon, i get the same feelings you where describing, to get over it ? i suggest you get into another girl and try you're best too move on, try too realise there are better girls out there.How to deal with an obsessive crush?
Holy Crap, i asked that question exactly, :(, i dont know what to do either im affraid, the exact same situation, thats so weird, i thought i was the only one like it......im confused really, i dont quite know how to get over it, but the only thing i can think of is to tell her, i mean, then only two things can happen, either she goes HELL YEAH, or.........she rejects you, but i mean i think it might help to help get over her, as hard as it is i know
good luck man
This is exactly what I am dealing with right now! I got this crush on this girl at my job and she rejected me and I still think about her for some reason! I am trying to forget about her but it is real hard to. Just hang in there (: Answer mine.... http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
It sounds like you have it bad!
The only thing you can do is do what you are doing by doing something that takes your mind of these women. The only thing that will work is that every time you think of them is to push that thought out of your mind.
It is not easy, but the more you can stop yourself thinking and fantasising about this woman, the easier it will get and the sooner you will get over her.
The other thing you have to remember is that the woman you have in your mind does not exist. The reason why fantasy is so appealing is because in your fantasy they are perfect whereas in real life nothing is ever perfect.
Just try and fill your time and your mind with other things and avoid places where you know this woman will be and after a while you will find that the fantasy does not invade your thoughts.
I stare at her picture all the time (though recently I've been able to control this a bit)
I think about her all the time 24/7. Though when I do some activities I enjoy, they leave my mind for a while, but then come back again.
I have fantasies about her
I keep thinking she don't like me or think I'm weird, which pains me so much.
If I was still in school, I would probably go out of my way just to see them.
I feel so envious of their boyfriend. I keep wishing I was them. And, as wrong as this sounds, I wish her boyfriend would die. If that sounds sick and wrong I agree. I'm ashamed.
Does anyone have any helpful tips in getting over this? If you think I WANT to feel this way, you're dead wrong.How to deal with an obsessive crush?
I feel the same for a girl right now, she doesn't have a bf right now so im making my move soon, i get the same feelings you where describing, to get over it ? i suggest you get into another girl and try you're best too move on, try too realise there are better girls out there.How to deal with an obsessive crush?
Holy Crap, i asked that question exactly, :(, i dont know what to do either im affraid, the exact same situation, thats so weird, i thought i was the only one like it......im confused really, i dont quite know how to get over it, but the only thing i can think of is to tell her, i mean, then only two things can happen, either she goes HELL YEAH, or.........she rejects you, but i mean i think it might help to help get over her, as hard as it is i know
good luck man
This is exactly what I am dealing with right now! I got this crush on this girl at my job and she rejected me and I still think about her for some reason! I am trying to forget about her but it is real hard to. Just hang in there (: Answer mine.... http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
It sounds like you have it bad!
The only thing you can do is do what you are doing by doing something that takes your mind of these women. The only thing that will work is that every time you think of them is to push that thought out of your mind.
It is not easy, but the more you can stop yourself thinking and fantasising about this woman, the easier it will get and the sooner you will get over her.
The other thing you have to remember is that the woman you have in your mind does not exist. The reason why fantasy is so appealing is because in your fantasy they are perfect whereas in real life nothing is ever perfect.
Just try and fill your time and your mind with other things and avoid places where you know this woman will be and after a while you will find that the fantasy does not invade your thoughts.
How do i deal with my friend dating my crush?
my friend called A started dating my crush called B i feel like she betrayed me.B has been my friend for awhile now and they just met.I asked B if he was still my friend cause he found out.He said yes but he still has not talked to me.Should i still b A's friend or not plzzzzz help.How do i deal with my friend dating my crush?
Did your friend A know that you had a crush on B?
cuz if she did. then shes a shady B***H. and you should ix-nay her @$$.
shes not a true friend.How do i deal with my friend dating my crush?
yeaa u should tho its gnna be hard. friends last longer than bf's
Did your friend A know that you had a crush on B?
cuz if she did. then shes a shady B***H. and you should ix-nay her @$$.
shes not a true friend.How do i deal with my friend dating my crush?
yeaa u should tho its gnna be hard. friends last longer than bf's
How to deal with a teen who has a crush on me?
I'm a 27-year old librarian. There is a 13 or 14-year old boy who is at the library nearly every day. He has a crush on me and it makes me so uncomfortable. He's always talking to me and asking me about my work schedule, or if I'm going to events in my town. He's seen me outside of work with my hubby and daughter. I don't know how to deal with this.How to deal with a teen who has a crush on me?
Wow, I was once that kid...Take it as a compliment that someone has a crush on you...Talk about your husband and daughter a lot, or just keep the conversation regarding the duo decimal system.How to deal with a teen who has a crush on me?
just tell him it makes u uncomfortable
I would say just be nice to him, and ask him if he has a girlfriend or other social friends. He doesn't need to be crushed at this age (there will be time enough for that later). Try to build up his confidence and maybe he will be able to relate to his own peers better.
start talking about your husband and maybe some of the adult concerns you have like paying bills, etc. That should deflate his interest.
Or you could let the kid know with a backhanded compliment like ';you're the kind of boy I liked WHEN I WAS YOUR AGE';
Tell him that he is a wonderful boy (even if he's not, just to make him feel better) but make him realize how you and he would not work. Tell him about your age difference, and that you already have someone you love very much. Tell him he will eventually meet the girl of his dreams but you are afraid it isn't you. Tell him you would love to be friends, though.
Hope I helped in one way or another. Good luck!
introduce him to ur little sister if u have any, or to your neighbors' daughter if they have any.
if none of u have any, then your case is hopeless.
talk to him tell him as it is .that he is a child you have a child so explain to him the way you would want some one to react to your child if it was her.
I would gently ask him to keep to questions that pertain to the library, and that it is against proper rules to discuss your personal information. Tell him that if he has questions outside of that that you are required to direct him to your supervisor. Then, do just that. Tell your supervisor that you have discussed this with this kid, and that you are not comfortable with his level of familiarity in his demeanor with you. make sur that your supervisors know who he is and have it documented correctly. Be careful and do not go out to the parking lot alone at night. Try to park your car in different places in case he knows what you drive. Make sure that your fmaily knows where you are at all times. Document any further out of line communication with your work place. If he keeps this up you might need to alert authorities. It is not too much to ask for him to stop, nor is it too much to ask your employer to help you out with this. Crush or not, he should not pursue you with those questions and he needs to know that it ia not appropriate.
i say sit him down, when no one else is around... ( unless legally you feel you should have another person there )... and just say ';listen... i think you are a really nice kid ( say ';kid'; ) ...but sometimes it seems as though you're treating me like a potential ';girlfriend';... while i think that's really sweet, i just want you to know that that makes me feel uncomfortable... because a woman my age doesn't think about boys your age that way... it's inappropriate... i would appreciate it very much if you could respect my boundries on this issue or i may have to talk to your parents... do you think we can we keep this just between us?...grey hair african american hair
Wow, I was once that kid...Take it as a compliment that someone has a crush on you...Talk about your husband and daughter a lot, or just keep the conversation regarding the duo decimal system.How to deal with a teen who has a crush on me?
just tell him it makes u uncomfortable
I would say just be nice to him, and ask him if he has a girlfriend or other social friends. He doesn't need to be crushed at this age (there will be time enough for that later). Try to build up his confidence and maybe he will be able to relate to his own peers better.
start talking about your husband and maybe some of the adult concerns you have like paying bills, etc. That should deflate his interest.
Or you could let the kid know with a backhanded compliment like ';you're the kind of boy I liked WHEN I WAS YOUR AGE';
Tell him that he is a wonderful boy (even if he's not, just to make him feel better) but make him realize how you and he would not work. Tell him about your age difference, and that you already have someone you love very much. Tell him he will eventually meet the girl of his dreams but you are afraid it isn't you. Tell him you would love to be friends, though.
Hope I helped in one way or another. Good luck!
introduce him to ur little sister if u have any, or to your neighbors' daughter if they have any.
if none of u have any, then your case is hopeless.
talk to him tell him as it is .that he is a child you have a child so explain to him the way you would want some one to react to your child if it was her.
I would gently ask him to keep to questions that pertain to the library, and that it is against proper rules to discuss your personal information. Tell him that if he has questions outside of that that you are required to direct him to your supervisor. Then, do just that. Tell your supervisor that you have discussed this with this kid, and that you are not comfortable with his level of familiarity in his demeanor with you. make sur that your supervisors know who he is and have it documented correctly. Be careful and do not go out to the parking lot alone at night. Try to park your car in different places in case he knows what you drive. Make sure that your fmaily knows where you are at all times. Document any further out of line communication with your work place. If he keeps this up you might need to alert authorities. It is not too much to ask for him to stop, nor is it too much to ask your employer to help you out with this. Crush or not, he should not pursue you with those questions and he needs to know that it ia not appropriate.
i say sit him down, when no one else is around... ( unless legally you feel you should have another person there )... and just say ';listen... i think you are a really nice kid ( say ';kid'; ) ...but sometimes it seems as though you're treating me like a potential ';girlfriend';... while i think that's really sweet, i just want you to know that that makes me feel uncomfortable... because a woman my age doesn't think about boys your age that way... it's inappropriate... i would appreciate it very much if you could respect my boundries on this issue or i may have to talk to your parents... do you think we can we keep this just between us?...
How to deal with my College crush?
There's this girl who's in my College, who's in most ofl my classes, and I like her. I don't know if the feelings I have for her are real (like I really like her or just a crush), or just my mind playing tricks on me.
I just got over a heartbreaking break-up this past summer with someone I really liked, btw.
Anywho, this girl in my class, she normally sits in the very back of the room, is quiet, and just goes in and out of class. She doesn't talk to anyone in the class. She smiles at me when we stare at one another.
She and I finally started talking to each other last week, as we were in line waiting for something. I walked her to her car a couple times after school as well, ...and we were recently placed in the same group together too, where she opened up to me about herself, as I got to know her more.
No one knows this ';crush'; I have right now. I got to know her a little better in the last month, I've built rapport, and she laughs at my jokes, but I don't know what to do now... should I go move forward by keep doing the same thing I've been doing, and slowly build things up, or should I just do nothing. I think she might have a BF already too. Oh, and she's really beautiful.
Despite the signs, I don't want to read into it too much, as I've been hurt before.
Are these feelings I have for her real? or just me going crazy? What should I do? Should I move forward with this?How to deal with my College crush?
If it was me, I'd wait for a few weeks (or months) to figure out the nature of the feelings I have for her and distance myself from her a bit so as not to fall in the ';just friends'; mistake. Then I'd make my move when I have my feelings sorted out, rushing things is useless. But that's just me :-PHow to deal with my College crush?
Trust me, don't misconstrue the situation more than it is already. She could like you or should could not like you. Give it time, and don't get your hopes up because you could get hurt.. same thing happened to me but before i got too attached to liking her, another great girl came into my life.
I just got over a heartbreaking break-up this past summer with someone I really liked, btw.
Anywho, this girl in my class, she normally sits in the very back of the room, is quiet, and just goes in and out of class. She doesn't talk to anyone in the class. She smiles at me when we stare at one another.
She and I finally started talking to each other last week, as we were in line waiting for something. I walked her to her car a couple times after school as well, ...and we were recently placed in the same group together too, where she opened up to me about herself, as I got to know her more.
No one knows this ';crush'; I have right now. I got to know her a little better in the last month, I've built rapport, and she laughs at my jokes, but I don't know what to do now... should I go move forward by keep doing the same thing I've been doing, and slowly build things up, or should I just do nothing. I think she might have a BF already too. Oh, and she's really beautiful.
Despite the signs, I don't want to read into it too much, as I've been hurt before.
Are these feelings I have for her real? or just me going crazy? What should I do? Should I move forward with this?How to deal with my College crush?
If it was me, I'd wait for a few weeks (or months) to figure out the nature of the feelings I have for her and distance myself from her a bit so as not to fall in the ';just friends'; mistake. Then I'd make my move when I have my feelings sorted out, rushing things is useless. But that's just me :-PHow to deal with my College crush?
Trust me, don't misconstrue the situation more than it is already. She could like you or should could not like you. Give it time, and don't get your hopes up because you could get hurt.. same thing happened to me but before i got too attached to liking her, another great girl came into my life.
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