How to deal with a crush?

hiiiiiiiiii, there is a guy in my office and we are friends, and slowly im finding out that i am developing huge crush on him though im going in a relationship for past 4 years. plz help how to deal with it?How to deal with a crush?
Having a crush on someone is natural. Nothing wrong with it, kind of like a fantasy. Eventually they kind of go away or fade somewhat or you follow through on it. In your case if you want to follow through, read on. I could go on and on and on as to why you should just not go there. The simple fact that you are in a relationship that is 4 years old is one of them, think about that. Some marriages don't last that long... and the grass is not always greener on the other side. There are many things you need to consider before you take this any further. First and foremost your current relationship, how would you feel if you reversed the roles. wouldn't that be cruel? I would feel betrayed for one thing. If you are unhappy then you need to break it off. Another thing, ';don't mix business with pleasure'; a relationship at the work place is hard to keep private, everyone will have their say so (gossip). Do your co-workers know you are in a current relationship? On top of that, say you follow through with this friend and then you have a big disagreement. Trust me, it can get UGLY and awkward.How to deal with a crush?
If you think you are matured enough..plase go ahead and ask him.. nothing wroing in asking if you want some thing..
well you should really follow your heart...if u think the guy u hv been in reapltionship for past 4 years is not really working out...then give it a go wiht this new guy...


find out how he feels about you....


if you think hes eally worth it then go for it....
Tell him how you feel, and if he feels the same way, be sure to end your current relationship. Affairs aren't cool.





If he doesn't feel the same way, just go on with your life as per usual. You will have no choice than to move on.





I hope I helped :)
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Go ahead..ask away. 4 years is more than enough to decide that you're interested.
well if you dont like the person that you are going with for the 4 years


well then you no what to do,but the crush you have on the other person might just be because the 2 of you are becoming really good friends at this time and you might only like him for a while.
tell him frankly that yu have a great feelings for him.If he accepts get married otherwise find out another.
Avoid getting serious. Don't flirt or accept/enjoy his flirts if any. Your 4 yr guycould not be worth fooling around with a crush! We all go through doubtful seasons in our relationships it happens like this. Boy sees girl, girl sees boy, they both have a significant other, boy and girl talk casually, sparks fly, boy and girl suddenly finds a problem with significant other, flirting increases. boy and girl has thoughts of leaving sig. other., crush shows his true colors and interest disappears, significant other back in the picture. (hopefully they are still around) Control youself and be mature when you get around this guy. Don't flirt with him!
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Depends dear....If you r fine with ur relationship status.....DO NOT go for it





If you do not like ur status...with ur current relationship.....ask him/her (i dunno whether ur a boy or girl :P) out....try ur luck!





Have an awesome ......day / night :)





Hope i helped :)
Yeah if you are with someone but thinking about someone else. You have to do some serious soul searching :)
Understand that it's going to take at least a bit of work to get there. Sometimes a lot. In order to accomplish whatever you want with you and that 'oo lala' someone, (whether it be kissing, dating, etc..) you can't expect them to just...fall for you. And that is the first step: Knowing where you stand.





Communicate with the person. It may feel awkward at first, but realize that if your crush thinks you're just trying to be friendly, he or she will probably want to talk to you. No matter how dumb you feel, eventually you're going to have to try starting a conversation about something you're both interested in. Don't start conversations if you don't understand them. (This sounds fairly obvious, but think about it: If you don't watch football, don't bring it up! It'll make the other person feel odd if he's doing all the talking.) After you can actually talk comfortably to him/her, they're going to get used to talking to you.





Use body language, but don't overdo it. If you're talking to a guy, licking your lips supposedly reminds them of kissing. Don't do this too much or they're going to think something's wrong with you. Playing with your hair a little bit might be a good thing too, but go easy on this one. Now, if you're a guy talking to a girl, make eye contact. Don't stare her down, but don't feel embarassed. Girls really like it when guys give them a little 'spark' by looking at them. For both guys and girls, smile. Sad people look like they don't want to be bothered. Smile when the person looks at you. Smile when you talk. And it doesn't have to be a huge, great grin, it just has to be 'a little something'.





Drop hints. If you want to hint to them you like them (after you've been chatting and all for a while...), you don't have to invite them to go somewhere with you if you're uncomfortable with that. Once you get confidence, you can hint something like, ';Hey, me, soandso, whatshisname, whatshername, and a couple other people are going to Miniature Golf this weekend. Wanna come?'; Realize that you shouldn't ask this as though you think they'll say no. Say it as if you want them to come for fun, and then that might give you a hint on how much they like you. Also, it'll make them feel pretty good that you're inviting them with a few of your other friends instead of just taking them by themselves. Perhaps after a few of this outings, it won't be so bad asking them on a real 'date'





Be original with dates. Take them somewhere you're sure they'd love to go. If they're into basketball, get tickets to a game of your hometown team. If they love a certain restaurant and seem to bring it up in conversation a lot, take them there





Know that the worst that can happen is that your crush says no. If you're getting completely negative vibes, the person is a jerk and doesn't deserve all the attention you're giving him or her





If you realize after a while that you don't really want to go out with this person, you simply want to be friends, stop the flirting and other crap. Just treat them like you would any of your other friends. Then, unless they start loving you, you won't have a problem





If you want to be secretive, just smile shyly at them whenever you see them. If you're a girl, smile softly and toss your hair a little. Be yourself but don't act to embarrassed. Just...go with it, and don't overdo it.