How to deal with a crazy, intolerant and egotistical person?

(giving you the gist rather than the whole story)





I admit I made a couple of mistakes. Not out of maliciousness, but out of confusion. But the way she (friend/crush) dealt with it was insane. She proceeded to tell everyone she knew about what I did; not giving a d*mn about how it would affect me, but only to boost her ego. Now the b*tch isn't here, and I have to deal with a number of people who know things about me that they shouldn't. Their smirks and looks just make me wish she was here so I could smack the sh-- out of her. I was in hell for months because I was so hurt by her, but I was mad at myself too because I wasn't 100% innocent. I'm not even the person I was then, anyway. I made mistakes and I learned from them. And I'm sorry.





How can I deal with these people and this situation? It's so annoying.How to deal with a crazy, intolerant and egotistical person?
Just say ';Yeah I know!'; and walk away!


Or better yet ignore them!!How to deal with a crazy, intolerant and egotistical person?
No matter how bad it was, it will most likely blow over. In high school, this girl that was supposed to be my friend stole my diary and showed everyone, and I was BAD at that age, so there was PLENTY of dirt. And I wanted to kick her ***, but I couldn't because she has two wooden legs (well maybe some kind of plastic). And of course I was the gossip for most of the year... ugh. But by next year everyone was talking about someone else. If you do see her though, kick her ***. Do it for me, because I couldn't beat down my ';nemesis.';





By the way, I guess it sounds kinda lame to keep a diary in high school, but there were things I did that I couldn't tell anyone, but I have a hard time keeping my mouth shut, so I had to put it somewhere.
I'm so sorry you're going through this--I personally cannot think of many people, including myself, who have not experienced both the betrayal of a loved one and public embarrassment. It hurts.





But I think you answered the question for yourself:





';I'm not even the person I was then, anyway. I made mistakes and I learned from them. And I'm sorry.';





Break it down:





1) You're sorry. Apologize to those who need to be apologized to. As long as it's heartfelt, you've done your part. Whether they accept your apology or not is now their burden.





2) You have changed. You are not the same person. You may have to prove it in your actions, but that's totally cool. We reinvent ourselves constantly, so who should believe us if we say we've changed. Walk the walk.





3) Ultimately, hold your head high. You've done the hardest thing--admitting your mistakes--and the second hardest--changing. Those who want to see it will be those you surround yourself with. The rest are just passers-by.





I believe in you--all the best!
just say that to your friends.





';i never claimed to be an angel and i may have done some things i'm not proud of but i would never turn on a friend that way';





some things are meant to stay private but if none of you beleives that then I can feel free to go ahead and start dishing on you like she did on me. (pause) ....or would you all rather i didnt?





thats what I thought so SHUT THE F*** UP
Shes a sack of *****!!!!! Do the best you can. wht a B!!!!!!!!!!!!
I upgraded everyone..





my answer to your dilemma is this.. take the high road. be honest and acknowledge what others are speculating about, but at the same time you don't owe them any explanations either. It will pass after time, and if these people Truly care about you, they will drop it. It seems that this person that hurt you and drew attention to you on your actions is being a coward by not standing up to her side of it. in time others will see this and they will also see that you admit to your wrong doings and you move on.. lt them catch up to you! best of luck!